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An animated story of a turning point in my life. This video request is long overdue.
It was requested by subscribers quite a while ago that I make and upload this. I started in Feb. but the situation in life got better (thank god) and I never had time to complete it. Now that it is done I must upload an updated version of “my story” as my life has taken a much needed change for the better.
This is a very serious clip. I ask of you, if you are a victim of abuse, please, PLEASE, go to this site:
http://www.ndvh.org/
Break the silence, make the call!
Resources:
Statistics: Stats Canada.
Songs: Mao – Angelic Butterfly; Dixie Chicks – Make nice
If you are unable to hear me in the beginning here is what I said:
It was only six months ago
I had a normal life
normal chores normal house and a place to rest my head
but then
in one night
everything changed
One guy
One mistake
Months of tears
I took up my roots
I packed all my memories
I packed all my dreams
My goals my passions and I moved away
My dad arrived, we packed the truck. I moved two buildings over.
he bought me a sofa, it was my new bed.
for 2 months all my dreams, all my nightmares were absorbed by those sofa cushions
I worked hard, I saved everything. Now I have a new bed a new wardrobe and a new begginning
But my life, it continues to change.
I feel as though I were on a bike.
And I climbed to the top of the highest hill.
I set up camp, I became comfortable.
And one day a loving friend
A trusted partner, took it upon himself to push me down that hill on my bike
And before i knew it I was flying down that hill I had worked so hard to climb.
My bike wobbled unsteadily and I learned too late that I did not have brakes.
There was no more I could do than to hold onto my handles and pray that I’d make it to the bottom without crashing. I’m still falling.
But I know if I make it to the bottom. I will never again climb to the top. The risk is far too great that I’ll only get pushed down once more.
Instead if I survive I will bike far away from my past and never look back.
It was only six months ago.
If you were unable to read the stats in the video they are listed below:

We fought for the right to vote
Only we stopped short
Many are abused, too many!
Enough is enough!
Now is the time to speak up!

On average 182 females were killed every year in Canada.
27 – husband
20 – common-law partner
15 – divorced or separated husband

76% of women sought refuge in shelters across Canada in 2004.

Of those who report the abuse:
70% – experience physical abuse.
50% – experience threats
46% – experience financial abuse
31% – experience harassment
27% – experience sexual abuse.

40% of these women had been in a shelter the previous year.
38% had been there 2-4 times.
10% five times or more!

Emotional abuse IS abuse!

November 25th is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women.

DON’T be a victim!
Speak out!

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Speaks of her professional accomplishments and the emotional abuse from her partner — the put-downs and lack of encouragement.
www.sharedvalues.ca/bda.html

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UNFPA,UNITED NATIONS,

“We want to encourage women to seek help, with no sense of shame, and know that they are worthy and deserve a better life.”

Help us spread the word! Below are materials that you can distribute to your colleagues and friends to help us spread the message of the Say NO to Violence against Women campaign.
http://www.unifem.org/campaigns/vaw/
You Can Help!
Violence against women is perhaps the most pervasive human rights violation — affecting no fewer than one in three women. But it remains largely invisible. Fear and shame prevent many women from speaking out. But you can help them to be heard and to be seen through your actions, advocacy and support.
Are you being abused? Are you seeking information to help you understand what’s happening to you and how to make positive choices for change?
Woman abuse is any threat, act or physical force that is used to create fear, to control, or to intimidate you.
With all abuse, the abuser uses power over those they are abusing. Abusers often use alcohol or drugs as an excuse. But the abuser is responsible for his or her behaviour.
Physical, sexual and psychological violence that occurs in the family, including battering; sexual abuse of female children in the household; dowry-related violence; marital rape; female genital mutilation and other traditional practices harmful to women; non-spousal violence; and violence related to exploitation;

Physical, sexual and psychological violence that occurs within the general community, including rape; sexual abuse; sexual harassment and intimidation at work, in educational institutions and elsewhere; trafficking in women; and forced prostitution;

Physical, sexual and psychological violence perpetrated or condoned by the State, wherever it occurs
Start a Brand New Day

women are pushed and shoved
Hold your head up girls
You have the right to say no.
See that door? You should leave and start anew life.Forget the past and look for a new place , a better life.
Come give us your hand.We will listen to you, We will guide you and we will help you.
And who are WE?
Those who wer VICTIMS before!
We have succeeded and you an too

United Nations agencies like UNIFEM, the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA), the World Health Organization (WHO), the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF), and the United Nations Development Programme (UNDP) provide information, statistics, news briefs, and updates on the situation globally. Human rights groups, women’s organizations, health care providers, and government ministries can all be sources of valuable information.

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