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if its emotional, physical.

it seems that the abuser glows with happiness and cant hide they’re huge grin after hurting somebody.

you ask " why are you smiling ? "
and the abuser will answer " im not smiling. "

but the abuser is..

have you ever met an abuser ( not sexual abuser )- ?

can you describe they’re personality ?

why ?

Typically, an abuser is or was a victim of abuse. Sometimes the abuser had abusive parents — not necessarily toward their children, but I’ve observed that when parents are abusive and disrespectful toward each other, their children can grow to emulate the behavior. In other instances, when a child is mentally and/or physically abused, he or she will either become withdrawn and full of fear or will become a bully. In the latter, the ‘bully’ will search out vulnerable victims. Many times their ‘victims’ are from homes where they saw their mothers abused and victimized. This sort of behavior and modeling seems to perpetuate itself and there never seems to be a shortage of walking wounded to keep the dysfunctional behavior going. The trick is to recognize these elements young and address the problems early — forewarned is forearmed! It’s a sad state of affairs and no one wins — the abuser is no more satisfied with their life than the abused. I don’t agree about the ‘glow’ thing as far as the abuser seeming to ‘enjoy’ their actions. It’s definitely a sickness to relish hurting another person psychologically or physically. The most important thing to know is that there is no such thing as being abused once — if you choose to continue a relationship with an abuser, you are signing on for a lifetime of sorrow…It is also important to remember here that many times an abuser uses drugs or alcohol and that seems to ’set them off’. While that’s scary enough — It scares me even more when an abuser commits their mayhem while they are stone sober — that’s not to say the alcohol or drugs are an excuse; but I think the mental illness is even more scary when a person can ’snap’ while totally sober!

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