Emotional Abuse: Lies Abusers Tell

July 28, 2009 - 3:44 pm 25 Comments

A short informative video on emotional abuse. Contains a selection of lies that abusers tell their victims in order to brainwash them to stay in the relationship.

Duration : 0:1:40


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25 Responses to “Emotional Abuse: Lies Abusers Tell”

  1. letmelivemylife2008 Says:

    It’s not your fault …
    It’s not your fault!! If he kills himself, all he has to blame is himself.

  2. LEMOY121 Says:

    DOMESTIC VIOLENCE …
    DOMESTIC VIOLENCE PROMO MUSIC VID…if you allow him…check it out x

  3. rainchild41 Says:

    Even if its just a …
    Even if its just a threat why take a chance? Call the police so they can get “help”. they get a few weeks in a mental hospital and you get some peace.

  4. Ackles4life Says:

    why didn’t u??
    why didn’t u??

  5. vampchick84 Says:

    well i have a scar …
    well i have a scar from my mom from when i was 10 she dragged me down the stairs to prove a point so i dont have a normal chin line. just recently we got into an arguement i locked my door and she banged on it yelled at me and made ahole in my door and then told me to get out of my room and leave the house.i wish i had took my kids out of the house right then and there and left.

  6. janicepjam Says:

    I understand that. …
    I understand that. My ex would leave me an emotional wreck in the morning then go to work and come back as normal. Noone knew what he was like. everyone thought he was a polite, well mannered public school educated man. The doctors diagnosed me with ME but it wasnt, it was severe stress, anxiety and depression. My family ignored it and they still do. My best friend encouraged me to leave him then married him 3 yrs later

  7. FromBoomTown Says:

    Guys; don’t play …
    Guys; don’t play the abusers game. If they say they’ll kill themselves, learn to laugh and say: well, the cops won’t throw me in prison and it’ll save me the headache of getting rid of you from my life. Sounds cruel, but works. Remember that they’re the bad ones, not you. Love yourself first.

  8. Cocakisses2720 Says:

    I get these . . if …
    I get these . . if you leave me Ill kill myself . . . Last time I thought you broke up with me I hungmyself in the bathroom . . . You are all I have to live for . . . Fuccin sucks I have to leave though but I know that when i do and he does kill himself Ill feel like its all my fault … knowing my preseance would have saved a life . . . but what about mine . . . ugh sorry ranting wtf lol

  9. Ackles4life Says:

    lucky… I really …
    lucky… I really wish I could do that. But then again I think if I had the chance and the resources I’d move out, bcuz this house holds nothing but bad memories for me.

  10. WeThePeopleRleaders Says:

    i think its even. …
    i think its even. men and women. if they were brought up to be that way. just ignore your dad. hes dumb. your part of the new generation, so move on into the future.

  11. WeThePeopleRleaders Says:

    yes but she was …
    yes but she was basically sleeping at other houses, so she had a place to stay. all she did was keep her stuff at the house, and was hardly ever there, so i helped her move. even though shes my mother, she didnt do much motherly stuff when she was around.

  12. Ackles4life Says:

    wait… u kicked …
    wait… u kicked her out? how? Was she not ur mother??

  13. womanagainstabuse Says:

    You are so right …
    You are so right when you say” Many verbal abuser are delighful man in public. they treat their spouse or gilfriend in such respect that people often thinks they are the perfect couple. THEY SAVE THEIR CRUELTY FOR A PRIVATE AUDIENCE OF ONE” . Thanks for posting that video

  14. WeThePeopleRleaders Says:

    you are smart girl …
    you are smart girl my ex was keeping inside the house to take care of him and he would always ume that i was cheating on him. once i realized he was being manipulative and repetitive. i dumped him. yeah! problem solved!

  15. WeThePeopleRleaders Says:

    dude i got alot of …
    dude i got alot of these too
    “You’ve done nothing but made me miserable your whole life!”
    “You destroy everything in my life.”
    “i wish you were never born”
    “you cant do anything right”
    “i hate you, bc you just like your American grandmother. you spoiled ”
    spoiled, selfish, disrespectful, ungrateful, , good for nothing, retarded etc.
    and that continued until i packed her up and kicked her out of the family house when i was 18-lol. and then she asked me why i was doing that to her

  16. WeThePeopleRleaders Says:

    im a woman and i …
    im a woman and i agree. my mom always used guilt and manipulation while i grew up. almost all the men in my life either diserted or sexually harrassed me and now i catch myself from saying certain things, get aggressive, and i push away from my boyfriend. i know its horrible but i dont know any other way of how to handle my emotions, nor the situation. i feel like i should break up with my boyfriend bc i dnt thnk he should be going through this. but you r wrong about not abusing ourselves.

  17. ShinjuxXx Says:

    “You’re bad, you’re …
    “You’re bad, you’re worthless, you’re ugly”
    “Nice girls don’t dress that way you do, or go anywhere alone”
    “You’re a ” Yeah I hear these ones a lot at home, my mom’s husband is such a ing , I can’t stand the way he treats her.

  18. Ackles4life Says:

    take a breather, I …
    take a breather, I didn’t say, or mean to say that women r the only ones capable of emotional abuse. I think I was replying to someone who either was stating that women r the “abusers” or that only men r. It’s just a fact that women r more likely to ‘emotionally’ abuse then men… while men r more likely to ‘physically’ abuse then women. I actually looked it up, cause my mom is emotionally abusive.

  19. letmelivemylife2008 Says:

    Are you ting me …
    Are you ting me? I know plenty of guys and men that are emotionally abusive and also a lot of girls. My dad is emotionally abusive. Period. And i have had enough of his crap.

  20. PiecesofEternity Says:

    Yup. Same here. …
    Yup. Same here. That and variations on ‘For a smart girl, you sure do stupid things! That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard!’

  21. Ackles4life Says:

    how about this: ” …
    how about this: “You won’t be happy till I’m in the hospital.” or “Your not happy till I’m screaming”… mother’s can b lovely can’t they…

  22. Ackles4life Says:

    actually, when it …
    actually, when it comes 2 emotional abuse. It’s the women, not the men. Bcuz women don’t have the muscle(strength) or whatnot 2 hurt their men, children physically, at least not like men can, they turn 2 emotional/verbal attacks. it’s why a woman’s mouth is so lethal. Women also do a far greater job at emotionally/verbally abusing themselves then any man can.

    all bcuz nature made man physical beings, n gave women the brains. hence, we “talk”, while men “hit”.

  23. Ackles4life Says:

    don’t lie 2 urself …
    don’t lie 2 urself as u speak the truth. some of the things my mom says 2 me:

    “You’ve done nothing but made me miserable your whole life!”
    “You think your opinions are so important, don’t you?!”
    “You only love your family when they give you something.”
    “You destroy everything in my life.”
    she’s called me: nasty, spoiled, selfish, disrespectful, ungrateful, , pig, bratty(brat), etc.

  24. freegg888 Says:

    You are very …
    You are very immature, it’s a wonder you have any friends. Most abusers are women. Don’t respond cuz I won’t read it. bye.

  25. enarhk Says:

    Wow, the Use For …
    Wow, the Use For What You’re Good At at 0:59 I heard from my abusive ex once when he stated he thought it was OK to get his jollies from low esteem girls because thats all they seem themselves as being good for. That was a huge red flag, needless to say I bolted in the other direction in revolt and disgust. It actually triggered Fight or Flight and I rarely flee. F*cking disgusting way of thinking… I wouldn’t touch them with a 20 foot pole because I know I can get someone better if I was male.

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