Military Spouse Abuse
August 24, 2009 - 6:28 am
I hope this video can raise awarness on how a military spouse is emotionally manipulated to cover abuse.
This is my Story
by Marcela Fleming
Duration : 0:8:27
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I hope this video can raise awarness on how a military spouse is emotionally manipulated to cover abuse.
This is my Story
by Marcela Fleming
Duration : 0:8:27
[youtube mjaj7QH0E_k]
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
Sounds like my …
Sounds like my husband William Lewis
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
There is no …
There is no justification for this, these members need to be held accountable instead of being enabled
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
Stand up and be …
Stand up and be heard, the military needs to take accountability for their troops and soldiers actions. They need to stop enabling the verbal or physical or both. I am tired of it and my husbands verbal abuse.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
WOW! I don’t know …
WOW! I don’t know how I stumbled onto this but stand up, be heard, never give up and never allow ANYONE to subjugate you!! As soon as you back down its like a green light to ramp up their bad behavior!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
Marcela, as a wife …
Marcela, as a wife who experienced nearly the same situation as you, i want to write in support of keeping this video posted. When the military unsubstantiates abuse cases, they do a great disservice to military families. They should not allow the abuse to further continue by allowing your husband to silence your voice. Speaking out against what happened to you is vital to your own recovery, and to helping others who are facing this too. Thanks for helping me with your video!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
What about Freedom …
What about Freedom of speech. It would be a shame if you are asked to remove this posting from UTube. It is such a despicable action on your husband’s part to abuse you and it is even more unacceptable since he serves in a respected area like the USArmy. I am sure they hold their troops to better and the highest standards to tolerate something like this. You will always be in my thoughts and Im sure justice and truth will prevail in your favor.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
What happens to …
What happens to women who are continually abused in this way,is the removal of our self esteem. We get to believe their crap.Leave him before he removes every part of your personality.You deserve better! You deserve a loving, rich and full relationship that is about kindness, compassion, love & equality. This is not marriage, it’s terrorism! Do your family know?Your mum could be your best ally.If not, go to a Refuge-seek legal advice about him forcing you to deny abuse.You have evidence-use it!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
OMG what a brave …
OMG what a brave woman you are! You are so deserving of goodness and happiness. My heart breaks for you. I know the sound of physical abuse and the torture of emotional rape. You are a prisoner of war. I pray that you have left him and that you are somewhere safe. Many hugs sent your way.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
You know I am a …
You know I am a civilian but, I am also Catholic, now the Catholic churches, and the military both try to keep everything hush, hush! It is a cover-up! Priests are to be trusted, someone you can confide in, The military, our line of defense that is to protect us from terrorists foreign and domestic also defends Domestic abusers!!!! Uh..correct me if I am wrong but that sounds a little hipacritical!!! But that’s the Government for you! They just brush it under the rug!!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
Marcela,
I share …
Marcela,
I share tears w.U 4 what U have experienced , Im so sorry4 what U have gone thru I applaud u 4 standing up + having such courage 2 making this video +telling your story. I so know it wasn’t easy @ all + u have gone thru much more than I have. I want 2 reach out 2 U + give u support n any way I can. U r helping and saving lives through all of this. U must know that and thus it makes U a blessing to every1 here.Stay strong I know U will b someone that we can all look up 2.
love,
Janna
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
My first husband …
My first husband was very abusive but nothing like that. Men who abuse women are nothing but weaklings and cowards big bullies who cannot deal with their own feelings so they have to pick on a woman to make them feel like a man. Stay strong!!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
NO they should not …
NO they should not remain in silence. Everyone has a voice and they need to make it clear when they are being put through a situation like this. ou were being abused and putting it on youtube is no different than the thousands that post on our walls everyday (I am an admin in the group Stop Domestic Violence and Child Abuse). Just sitting there and letting it happen is only going to make it worse for the person being abused.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
I am so glad you …
I am so glad you did this. I was married to a person who called himself a US Marine 14 years ago. He manipulated me into dropping charges many times. I suffered a fractured skull and a dislocated shoulder. This doesn’t count the emotional nightmare he caused. I was one of many in his circle of friends and I am lucky enough to be away with my life and my sanity.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
Emotional abuse is …
Emotional abuse is no less damaging to a person than physical abuse. It breaks down your very being and makes you insecure and scared. I am a former military spouse, I was manipulated, emotionally abused/blackmailed and felt the physical side of abuse. There is NO excuse for domestic violence on any level. Emotionally, I will never be the same. The military was no help at all to me. There is nothing heroic about a man who comes home to terrorize his wife and children, there is NO excuse
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
The silence around …
The silence around domestic violence protects the abusers and blames the victims, and it keeps the uninformed more uninformed. The military, as it is prone to do, has embraced protection of abusers with a shameful passion. This video is important because it brings life, and a real person, to the reality. Thanks to Marcella for her bravery in making this video and posting it!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
This man should …
This man should never represent ME in OUR Military. Read: Treat people as they should be treated. In the Soldiers Code, we pledge to treat others with dignity and respect while expecting others to do the same. Respect is what allows us to appreciate the best in other people. Respect is trusting that all people have done their jobs and fulfilled their duty. And self-respect is a vital ingredient with the Army value of respect, which results from knowing you have put forth your best effort.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
Oh my god. What an …
Oh my god. What an terrible man. Justice will teach him. Our prayers are with you, godbless.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
I hate to see that …
I hate to see that happen to anyone. It happened to me – 15 years years ago with my ex-husband. He was in the USMC. By the time anything was done, I had a broken nose, broken cheekbone, a concussion, and bruising. He was released to his CO before the hospital was through with my ex-rays! His punishment was that he could not reenlist at the end of his term. It took a long time to get past and I will never let it happen again. Continue speaking out – more abused spouses need to!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
What a terrible …
What a terrible thing. I hope the justice system can prevail. There is no excuse for women abuse. What a terrible way for a military person to represent themself & the country. Stay strong & god will punish him also.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
my friend, watching …
my friend, watching this video breaks my heart ….because i know you are friend of mine and know how wonderful person you are ,you are a strong woman you always were ,i admire you for doing this i want you to know you have all my support all my prays and i hope justice comes to him soon…big huggs for you
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
I hope you’re some …
I hope you’re some place safe and far away from this man. I fear that someone like that will not hesitate to escalate.
But most of all I want to commend you for speaking up. You’re very brave!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
I hope you get …
I hope you get proper justice very soon. The way this guy played you and still trying to play you. I’m so surprised to hear the kind of acting he did during that 4 months to help him out. You were too naive for that guy and he took full advantage of you. Also, it’s sickening to hear what helped to stay away from jail and fine, he’s using the same information to make a case against you. So sad…He’ll get proper justice for his evil deed.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
This is a horrible …
This is a horrible and traumatic situation, this man sounds like an evil and despicable man, stay strong!!! what goes around comes around.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
My heart breaks for …
My heart breaks for you. I hope he gets what is coming to him.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:28 am
My heart broke …
My heart broke hearing your story. I will pass this video on to everyone I know