Identifying Verbal Abuse Pt 2
September 8, 2009 - 9:28 am
The list titled, Categories of Verbal Abuse, continues from Part 1. The list was taken from the book,”The Verbally Abusive Relationship”, by Patricia Evans.
I will continue to include Verbal/Emotional Abuse education into my library of videos. If you have a specific question/request, for information or places to find help, send me a personal message or request. God bless my darlings! Much love!
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September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
I don’t know if …
I don’t know if this is going on with me… he says all he does is because of me. That he never acted like this before. He wont show me any affection. A lot of the time I have to ask for it… he tells me I ruined him and his life. He breaks things… and punches holes in walls. He puts me down. And then says He doesn’t remember doing it. That he blacks out… but sometimes he’s really nice. It’s so confusing…
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
my bf hardly ever …
my bf hardly ever asks me to do things its more like “hand me my plate” “put this here” “take this!” or he points at objects and doesn’t tell me what he wants me to do with it then makes me feel stupid for not possibly knowing what he wanted..
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
I have been in a …
I have been in a verbally emotionally abusive relationship almost two years now. it was a horror movie of ping pong ball, on 3 months off 3 months. My therapist would beg me not to ever speak with him or engage him and I would end up again and again, Now I hope it is over, I had a mutual friend phone and tell him to quit calling, well it was clever enough to convince them that I was just competly , nuts and crazy, needed to be lock up crazy, now he turning others against me.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
I engage abusive …
I engage abusive behavior habitually. Now that I can identify it, I can start to work on it.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
Just wondering but …
Just wondering but when you met your ex did he seem like a or did he just get worse?
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
It is not only men …
It is not only men who verbally abuse women. My eldest sister has been a verbal abuser for years.Firstly to my other sister and now to me and my Mum.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
thank you so much, …
thank you so much, very useful video.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
because of my …
because of my verbal,emotional even sexual ( )abuse from my boyfriend of 3 years i have decided to volenteer and make my path to helping women and children of domestic violence. thank you for sharing your story,,awareness is the first key!
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
I Know Mine Do More …
I Know Mine Do More Then That
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
mine does i love …
mine does i love this video cuz i just take her EX out And putting mine in
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
not just bfs verbal …
not just bfs verbal abuse parents do too.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
i’m here crying …
i’m here crying because it’s taken me watching your part1 and 2 to realize how BAD my b/f is! I’m getting the OUTTA HERE! thanks girl – hugs
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
Yes I did the same …
Yes I did the same in the end. I was raised in a house of boys, I was the only girl so I guess I have this inbuilt thing to stand up for myself. Yes they will tell you your crazy. Don’t feel bad at all. Its no surprise you lost it. its like poking a sleeping lion..it will wake up and roar in the end.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
RESPECT!!
RESPECT!!
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
Thank you for …
Thank you for posting this!
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
Im glad you are …
Im glad you are talking about this..There should be more on verbal abuse..Its very confusing when you are in this situation..
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
I think it’s truly …
I think it’s truly wonderful that you posted these videos and that you are helping others to become more aware what this more subtle form of abuse looks like. I was in an abusive relationship too; I know the strength it takes to talk about it and to completely face what happened. For anyone who is currently in or was in an abusive relationship, it is very important to talk about it with someone and let yourself heal. Remember: It is never your fault.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
This guy sounds …
This guy sounds like my ex. All of the behaviors are classic Bi-polar. I took the abuse for 15 years and finally decided I deserved so much more than this. Ladies, wake up and don’t spend one more day with a someone who makes you feel badly about yourself. Don’t say because of the kids, don’t stay because you have no money, don’t stay because, “you’re supposed to stay married”, don’t stay because , don’t stay because after all what would the neighbors say. Get out now!!! And start living life!!!
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
But what about when …
But what about when you know you are being emotionally/verbally abused and then, in anger you lose your cool and say, ‘bastard’ or some such thing? I did this to my abuser and he immediately said I was a crazy person for insulting him. It is true I used name-calling–but I did it in response to months of abuse. Yet i felt guilty
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
That ing
That ing
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
you had an eating …
you had an eating disorder too?? this is so crazy!! thanks for making me realize im not alone
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
It sounds like that …
It sounds like that guy’s pretty messed up. There are people that try to lift up themselves and those nearby. There are other people that give up on lifting themselves up. Instead they just push others down so they feel higher by superficial comparison. I hope you eventually went back to cosmetic school to finish. To do what that guy did, I’d have to first believe I’m garbage. To look back on it, I’d see the behaviour as confirmation of the earlier belief. Maybe that’s why it becomes habit.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
Don’t you love it …
Don’t you love it when they call the police on you and accuse YOU of abusing THEM? Especially when they are at least twice your size . . . so bizarre.
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
Listen to you inner …
Listen to you inner voice, sounds cheesy to u maybe, but that whisper inside that’s telling you to get out, or maybe the voice is asking u to look at the truth of the relationship, not what u WANT to see. Either way, follow your gut, that voice inside, its trying to protect you, and possibly save your life. To answer your question, ABUSE IS NEVER OKAY, even when they’re drunk. I’ll keep you in my prayers, thinking of u. God bless!
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
Key words stuck out …
Key words stuck out to me as I kept rereading your comment…”only verbally abusive when drunk”…”he is an alcoholic”…this to me says he is ‘abusive’ more than he isn’t, i am only able to access your situation based on what you wrote, but I am still able to sense how smart and loving you are, you know that you deserve more respect, to quote u “I know it is still not okay”.