how do emotional abusers make the victims feel guilty?
July 28, 2009 - 8:56 am
how do they do it?
do they do it consciously or what?
Some unconsciously some consciously..but their goal is to make the victim guilty, by convincing him somehow that she did or didn’t do such a thing, or is this or that way, etc.etc.
They use especial words and thoughts to confuse the victim interiorly
July 28th, 2009 at 2:04 pm
Some unconsciously some consciously..but their goal is to make the victim guilty, by convincing him somehow that she did or didn’t do such a thing, or is this or that way, etc.etc.
They use especial words and thoughts to confuse the victim interiorly
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July 28th, 2009 at 2:51 pm
sometimes they get themselves into the frame of mind where they don’t know that they are doing it, there are no specifics as to what happens each case is different, it tends to be along the lines of them doing something and blaming the other person for it, an example being a man who beats his wife will often say well if you hadn’t __________ i wouldn’t have hit you, or even something as simple as holding a secret over them, blackmail is an extreme and most common form of emotional abuse
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July 28th, 2009 at 3:38 pm
The abuser is very aware of their behavior and how it effects the victim. Part of the abusers thrill is having control over the victim, most likely the abuser doesn’t have that control of their life. The abuser is as worried about the victim leaving as the victim is worried the abuser will abandon them. Most likely the abuser has the victim believing no one else would want them (i.e. damaged property). The abuser will continuing this cycle daily, at times many times per day, to ensure that it is not broken.
Victims feel guilt for not performing to the rigorous expectations of the abuser, usually connected with low self esteem, the victim feels guilty because the abuser has been so "helpful" to them in their time of need/crisis, etc. The victim wants nothing more than to please their abuser, most likely the victims came from a home where one or both parents abused them in an emotional fashion. The child (psyche) wants to please, needs that praise, that is the only self respect they know.
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July 28th, 2009 at 3:49 pm
GUILT, TLKIN DOWN, LYING………
SNAKES
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July 28th, 2009 at 4:12 pm
The purpose is to double the dose of abuse.
To make the victim feel guilty is just another
modality to abuse. The most common site of this scenery is within the marriage setting. The victim must make him or herself conscious that the origin of all kinds of abuse is for lack of love. The victimiser 99 percent no longer loves the victim. This consciousness will help the victim find the way out.
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