EMOTIONAL ABUSERS…CAN THEY REALLY CHANGE?
My boyfriend is an emotional abuser. In the past 2 years he has ignored me(and my feelings), I would touch him sometimes with no response, when I speak he would wrinkle up his nose and have disgust in his voice, he yells alot over things such as the laundry not done quite like he likes, i’ve seen road rage, and just recently i looked in computer history and he had made a new e-mail address that I wasn’t aware of. I confronted him, he lied. I made him open it in front of me, nothing there, but I’m sure he was PLANNING on using for something…….Now he is being really nice(a different person) for like the past 2 weeks). Can someone like this change without professional help?
No an emotional abuser will not change without a lot of therapy. What is happening now is called "The honeymoon phase" getting you to let your guard down and feel kind hearted towards him again.
There is no way of knowing how long this will last but, it isn’t going to.
If the new email account wasn’t deleted it’s still waiting there to be used.
If you saw your best friend in the situation you are in what would your advice be to her?
You have to be good to yourself and be your own best friend. Above all else be brave enough to see the truth.
January 25th, 2010 at 9:44 am
Get him to read this- You can talk to me when Im online check my profile lit IM link. Many people are getting well who have the same problem- without meds.
Hurting people hurt others. It’s not you. They are the ones who have a problem. They are sick and being mean makes them feel better. People/kids/parents do mean things or lie to manipulate. They just want the reaction so they can get high feel good from it. The words are not true. I know they can say things that are true partially, but is it right to bring up the past over and over? You have to look at the agenda and not just the words alone to see the abuse sometimes. Abuse is anything that’s not uplifting so forget what truth is being used right then.
When you have a bad past/rejection/father gone it makes things start. Anorexia, Bipolar, Cutting, OCD, anxiety, panic attacks, hearing voices can all come from a tramautic past. It opens doors to the negative and they start to dwell closeby, like addicitons cravings. You can talk to me or google "emotional abuse" Knowing the truth is the step to freedom from pain.
Sickness can be a spiritual problem so praying to get rid of negative things of a spiritual nature is often needed after years of abuse. Demons cause many so called mental illnesses that suddenly vanish when the truth is known showing they are not firm.
1. Google online "Emotional Abuse" Read 20+ sites. BULLYING 20 sites
2. Realize its their problem.
3. Google- Diet Depression Soda stops depression from food.
4. Google "Sinners prayer"- stops sadness.
5. Google "Deliverance Prayers"
http://eqi.org/eabuse1.htm
Click my name to talk. – see profile.Anyone can copy this info above.
Source– Experience in a ministry
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January 25th, 2010 at 10:32 am
Just break up with him… you’re only emotionaly attached to him but you’re not really happy, are you ? when you break up with him you will be happier and find a better person
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January 25th, 2010 at 10:58 am
No an emotional abuser will not change without a lot of therapy. What is happening now is called "The honeymoon phase" getting you to let your guard down and feel kind hearted towards him again.
There is no way of knowing how long this will last but, it isn’t going to.
If the new email account wasn’t deleted it’s still waiting there to be used.
If you saw your best friend in the situation you are in what would your advice be to her?
You have to be good to yourself and be your own best friend. Above all else be brave enough to see the truth.
References :
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