Emotional Abuse
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We all know about Sexual Abuse. We all know about Physical Abuse. But, we know very little about Emotional Abuse.
Emotional Abuse occurs when one person emotionally and psychologically abuses another person who is in need of sincere affection. This kind of abuse takes many forms…
Your partner Undermines your self-esteem. He/she delivers mixed messages: “I love you” (I hate you.)
It’s like pushing you through a cliff and running down to catch you.
Your partner can tell you the sweetest things and the most hurtful ones at the same time.
Your partner can also humilliate you by ignoring you.
He/she might contact you only when they are bored or have some spare time, or need something specific from you.
Your partner tells you that he “loves” you, or you are special, but he/she needs an open relationship.
Your partner bluffs making you believe he/she intends to spend time with you, even makes plans that will never happen.
Your partner tells you beautiful things he/she does not really mean at all, and will compensate your tolerance with small tender gifts.
Emotional abuse also occurs through financial dependency. One partner does not let the other be financially independent.
Or through intellectual and manipulative mind games. Abusers tend to play the victim or they take offense quickly.
They invariably put the blame on others, or on the world, or on their luck, or situation.
They accuse their partners of not understanding them, or not understanding their needs, creating a sense of lack of sensitivity on your part.
Abusers are extremely possessive and jealous. They need to control other people’s lives but will never show it.
They will pretend what you do with your life is none of their business.
Abusers often have several superficial relationships with other people. They escape reality and tend to live in fantasyland.
Abusers may be described as having a dual personality: they can be either charming or exceptionally cruel.
A major characteristic of abusers is their capacity to deceive others. They can be cool, calm, charming and convincing: a true con person.
Most of the time, they also deceive themselves. They are unable or choose not to see reality as is it.
Emotional Abusers do not acknowledge the harm they cause.
Some people abuse others emotionally because that’s what they learned.
They were victims of emotional abuse and neglect themselves.
These abusers can grow out of their abusive pattern and explore healthier ways to relate to others.
Some are aware of what they do and do not intend to change.
But the worse problem about emotional abuse is the fact that many people let others abuse them.
Stop.
Think.
Are you not worthy of a healthy relationship?
Are you not worthy of sincere love and affection?
Are you not worthy of an honest partner?
Don’t let others abuse you.
Turn your back on abuse.
Walk away from abusers.
If you are a victim of emotional abuse, seek help.
You cannot change an abuser, but maybe a professional therapist can.
Quit the game.
Don’t let an emotional abuser put you down.
Some have a hurtful way to create emotional codependency just by telling you exactly the sweet words you are hoping to and need to hear.
Don’t believe their words. Believe their concrete actions.
Does your partner’s words and promises match his/her actions?
Does your partner tell you he/she loves you and you are special but goes on with his life, ignoring you and ignoring your feelings?
You don’t need an abuser in your life.
You deserve someone who will love you and respect you for who you are, not for what they can get from you.
Even if it’s just attention.
Don’t fall for empty promises.
Abusers commit abuse because they know you will always give them another chance.
Don’t do it.
Choose to Love Yourself First.
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August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Yes, that’s one of …
Yes, that’s one of the disorders most abusers suffer. Also, antisocial personality disorder (sociopaths) and histronic personality disorders, etc. But I guess the narcissistic is the most frequent.
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Sounds like …
Sounds like narcissistic personality disorder.
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
my partner does all …
my partner does all theses things to me it hurts so much i feel i cant be with out him he breaks thing in our home he ignores me he blames me we have a child together and one on the way im sad that im about to do another child alone my partners here but not here ….he doesnt hit me but his words are so cutting cold and makes me believe it may be me i made him this way he pretends to others we are perfect yet its everything but perfect feelin sad
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Thank you for your …
Thank you for your comment!
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
my “partner” …
my “partner” controled every aspect of me. he made me think i was worthless and I deserved to be punnised for my “sins” i loved him so much and its been three years since i got out and i still cant bring myself to tust anyone. i cant thin why i fell inlove with him or why he turned on me. i tried to be perfect for him and all i got was pain and bruses.
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Thanks for all your …
Thanks for all your comments
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Thank you for this …
Thank you for this video…….my dad has been emotionally abusive for a long time and i’m gettin sick of it. He knows he’s wrong about everything that he’s done but he doesn’t admit it.
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Symptoms and signs …
Symptoms and signs of emotionally abusive spouses /husbands this was amalgamated from a number of sources.
• Are you accused of cheating on him when you leave the house to do errands, etc.?
• Does he have control over the money and monitor your spending?
• Does he make disparaging remarks about your skills / something you are proud of?
• Are you afraid to talk about certain topics unless he’s in a good mood?
• Does it feel more like you have a dad than a partner?
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Thank you for …
Thank you for talking about this.
Just like you said, we never hear about this because no ones metions it.
I am glad that someone as sensitive as you would do this!
Thank you so much!
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Thank you so much, …
Thank you so much, Julia!
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
it can be confusing …
it can be confusing, they can be such good actors that they make it seem like they arent abusing ? can we be sure they are fully aware ? i guess i always told myself that he wasnt aware
somehow they always turn it around and play the victim
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
I agree with you, …
I agree with you, Julia. Hoewever, not all abusers are fully aware that they are abusing others, But it is true that, generally speakings, abusers lack empathy for others. Thanks for your comment
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Gracias Lucía. =)
Gracias Lucía. =)
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
The abusers, simply …
The abusers, simply, are the egoists; it had not obtained to introduce the guilt in its psíques; it does not obtain to place itself in the place of the other; they do not have empatia….they are weak and cowards; but, all the attention is little!!! Congratulations a thousand times and a thousand stars for your video,dear Mariana!
K&P
JULIA
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Excelente informe …
Excelente informe Mariana………..,cariños Lucia.
August 15th, 2009 at 9:27 am
This is the …
This is the corrected version of the original one. For comments on this video, you may refer to the previous version, or post new comments here.