Emotional Abuse
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Stop Emotional Abuse, You Deserve Better.
We all know about Sexual Abuse. We all know about Physical Abuse. But, we know very little about Emotional Abuse.
Emotional Abuse occurs when one person emotionally and psychologically abuses another person who is in need of sincere affection. This kind of abuse takes many forms…
Your partner Undermines your self-esteem. He/she delivers mixed messages: “I love you” (I hate you.)
It’s like pushing you through a cliff and running down to catch you.
Your partner can tell you the sweetest things and the most hurtful ones at the same time.
Your partner can also humilliate you by ignoring you.
He/she might contact you only when they are bored or have some spare time, or need something specific from you.
Your partner tells you that he “loves” you, or you are special, but he/she needs an open relationship.
Your partner bluffs making you believe he intends to spend time with you, even makes plans that will never happen.
Your partner tells you beautiful things he does not really mean at all, and will compensate your tolerance with small tender gifts.
Emotional abuse also occurs through financial dependency. One partner does not let the other be financially independent.
Or through intellectual and manipulative mind games. Abusers tend to play the victim or they take offense quickly.
They invariably put the blame on others, or on the world, or on their luck, or situation.
They acuse their partners of not understanding them, or not understanding their needs, creating a sense of lack of sensitivity on your part.
Abusers are extremely possessive and jealous. They need to control other people’s lives but will never show it.
They will pretend what you do with your life is non of their business.
Abusers often have several superficial relationships with other people. They escape reality and tend to live in fantasyland.
Abusers may be described as having a dual personality: they can be either charming or exceptionally cruel.
A major characteristic of abusers is their capacity to deceive others. They can be cool, calm, charming and convincing: a true con person.
Most of the time, they also deceive themselves. They are unable or choose not to see reality as is it.
Emotional Abusers do not acknowledge the harm they cause.
Some people abuse others emotionally because that’s what they learned.
They were victims of emotional abuse and neglect themselves.
These abusers can grow out of their abusive pattern and explore healthier ways to relate to others.
Some are aware of what they do and do not intend to change.
But the worse problem about emotional abuse is the fact that many people let others abuse them.
Stop.
Think.
Are you not worth of a healthy relationship?
Are you not worth of sincere love and affection?
Are you not worth of an honest partner?
Don’t let others abuse you.
Turn your back on abuse.
Walk away from abusers.
If you are a victim of emotional abuse, seek help.
You cannot change an abuser, but maybe a professional therapist can.
Quit the game.
Don’t let an emotional abuser put you down.
Some have a hurtful way to create emotional codependency just by telling you exactly the sweet words you need to hear.
Don’t believe their words. Believe their concrete actions.
Does your partner’s words and promises match his/her actions?
Does your partner tell you he/she loves you and you are special but goes on with his life, ignoring you and ignoring your feelings?
You don’t need an abuser in your life.
You deserve someone who will love you and respect you for who you are, not for what they can get from you.
Even if it’s just attention.
Don’t fall for empty promises.
Abusers commit abuse because they know you will always give them another chance.
Don’t do it.
Choose to Love Yourself First.
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July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Thanks for your …
Thanks for your comment, I’m happy to hear more people are posting new videos on this subject to help others, your channel is very good.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
To all abuse …
To all abuse victims you are not alone
we love you
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
i not abused what …
i not abused what would lead you to belevie that ive been mentally physacilly or verbally abuse im just stuided the mind sorry for any confusion
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Abusers aim to make …
Abusers aim to make the victims believe they are not mentally stable. When we are under pressure, we start thinking we “lost it”, but that is not so. Check our main site for more information.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
sometimes i doubt …
sometimes i doubt my menat stableness
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
That’s so true, and …
That’s so true, and you made an excellent video too. Stop abuse, indeed.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
good video…abuse …
good video…abuse is not ok. i am a survivor. i made a video too if anyone has time to watch it and give feedback, that would be cool.
Emotion abuse creates deep wounds that take time to heal. People don’t realize how much words can hurt sometimes. My mother abused me and sometimes the words hurt more than the physical abuse. Everyone deserves to be love! Stop abuse
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Hello Soulstrumxxx, …
o Soulstrumxxx,
You can find a lot of useful information on our network. There are several articles that can help you regarding this subject, I will email you the link.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
the philosophy is …
the philosophy is crippling and it doesnt help you or the other person, if you know your “better” then give the other person what he deserves, in that way theyl be forced to learn, because they wont learn willingly, ppl will emotionally kill you and your emotions may kills you eventually too. ive seen now that jelousy runs rampant among society, if i have either very smart, goodlooking, popular, something kids ill make sure they learn great pride, courage and compassion. that way they will fight
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Because im so good …
Because im so good looking i was subjected to alot of emotional abuse over the years, i always wondered why. i dont live by an eye for eye makes ppl go blind. its a crippling philosophy that disables your ability to defend and drains you from just defending, making ppl ail you forever. now i just need to feel supported to really help myself.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
For all those who …
For all those who were abused: YOU ARE WORTH!
DON”T LISTEN TO OTHER WHO SAY OTHERWISE!
I LOVE YOU ALL!
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Thank you for all …
Thank you for all your comments, I regret I haven¡t had much time to reply to each of them individually, but please know that I value your opinions and views. Thanks for the comments, again.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
im confused, i dont …
im confused, i dont get it, im really confused?
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
I saw this video …
I saw this video and it helped me to find out what my so called boyfriend was doing to me….I also found out im addicted to him. But i thought hey maybe now that I know this ill be able to handle it and turn around and love me if i loved him more, but honestly its very very heartbreaking the way he treats me. This video seems as if its talking just about him! The funny thing is he was emotionally abused by his wife as well…..
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
But yeah, …
But yeah, pretending not to be aware of the abuse, but secretly watching the abusers as they gain thier sick sense of pleasure. I can’t believe how screwed up people have become. There are very few emotionally normal and emotionally perceptive people left.
Most girls have been broken too young, most guys grow into their 30’s yet have still not become men. Peoples’ very ego’s are so rotten and negative but since everyone is the same such behaviour is sickeningly acceptable, even admirable.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
I notice I can say …
I notice I can say the right things in the right way and I can get under their skin.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
I witness this sort …
I witness this sort of thing. It weird, in emotional terms I see guys who are practically raping thier girlfriends in emotional terms, howevever these people put on such a facade. They act like little spoil children, and any attempt to even look them in the eyes is met with hostility.
I suffer from much emotional abuse, but you see I am aware of it, but I sustain it because I am working on a way to cure the problem. There is something along the lines of NLP that can be used to crack abusers.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
I agree with …
I agree with Crystal, please seek out help. Social services can often offer free counselling and can understand and provide counsel. They are very caring. Oprah has some very good info on emotional abuse and some links, and Facebook has at least one group about emotional abuse. You are worthy, you deserve to be happy, people care about you. Please take care of yourself, you deserve to be well cared for.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Please don’t take …
Please don’t take that anymore. Reach out to anyone who couldn’t possibly be persuaded by your mother. You have to do it for you and for those people who love you. There are always people who were meant to be together no matter what like soul mates but friends too. Yours is waiting so you have to break free! Please.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Yes, emotionally …
Yes, emotionally abusive parents are one of the most dfficult things to deal with in life. They are supposed to look after their children’s mental wellbeing and health.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
My mother has …
My mother has emotional abused me all my life. Still in my 30’s, she continues to do so. She controls me through money and I don’t have the strength nor resources to break free. She also sexually abused me as a child and now I am a very screwed up adult with numerous addictions and mental ailments.
Ive tried committing suicide but it failed and wish so much that I was dead so all this would go away.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
if people think its …
if people think its hard to get away from an abusive boyfriend/girlfriend try getting away from your own father when hes emotionally abusing you. im just glad my parents are divorced i had someone to runaway to.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
I understand how …
I understand how you feel, Janice. Emotional abuse is painful and undermines a person’s self-esteem. It’s a silent and invisble enemy. You may wish to check our websites too
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
I was in an …
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. The doctors diagnosed me with M.E. but the symptoms were due to the severe stress I was under beiing with someone I loved but didnt love me in return. He would stress me out so much then go to work leaving me an emotional wreck. His family deny he did anything wrong. I realised when I had the courage to walk away that I had no friends, noone was truly there for me. Emotional abuse exists behind closed doors.
July 28th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Hope it can help …
Hope it can help others become aware of this problem.