and like they are atleast 20 years old and they are probably a definate user or abuser??
Ya I know quite a few. Colorado has one of the biggest party schools in the US in Boulder. Most of my friends from High School that went to college got really into serious drugs like coke, acid and Ecstasy. Scary but it’s there life. I’m not friends with them anymore because of it.
This could be physical, emotional or financial damage
Lots of variables here. If both "suspects" lived by themselves, did not force their habits on anyone else. Did not drive while drunk. Smoke in the presence of anyone. Both paid for their own insurance or at least had an employer that did as part of the job benefits. Then, it would be about even.However, people that smoke haven’t caused near as many accidents as those that are drunk.Second-hand smoke may have a basis in fact but not totally proven yet. So, all in all, if both are separated from others, it is equally unimportant. Put in the general population, the drinker will kill more.
My boyfriend of 5 years has this friend who likes to drink, party and sniff drugs a lot. I cant stand his friend because he is a druggy and a drunk, not to mention he stayed the night and kept me up with this loud mouth until 4 a.m. when i had to wake up and go to work at 7. I am so tired of my bf’s friend but he doesnt ever listen to me when i tell him he cant spend the night or come to our home or to family outings etc. What do i tell my boyfriend to get him to listen and see that his friend truly is a bad influence ( dont want to come between them) but i hate dunks and druggies
Do something to show your boyfriend that its bothering you,
if you don’t stand your ground your boyfriends going to just keep
letting him stay and be around all the time.
Next time your boyfriend lets him over or around and you tell your
boyfriend you dont want him around and he doesn’t listen then leave and go somewhere just to show you don’t want to be around it and
if your boyfriend doesn’t seem bothered that your upset or anything
then I think you should dump him, if he can’t respect how you feel and that you don’t like being around people like that then he’s obviously not
worth being with.
I started drinking in college and soon mentally equated "drinking with fun". I never missed work, no DUI’s and never got abusive when I drank. I’ve been divorced three times, but I left them (though I know it seriously impacted my relationships). Last year I quit drinking for about 4 months, for health & weight reasons and to find a woman who I could build a new life with. I soon met someone on the internet. She had an alcoholic ex-husband, so she will not tolerate me getting drunk. Her definition of being drunk is more strick than mine. She does drink a small amount, but it’s not really that important to her. We talked about a "3 drink rule", but within a few weeks, I went a little too far (tho I didn’t think so). She says I can never be a "social drinker". I resent the fact that "I can’t have a drink". I’m a pretty strong person – I quit smoking by just quitting. Can I reprogram my brain to become a "social drinker". Can hynopsis help achieve this, or even quitting?
You sound like you’re rationalizing throughout your whole post. No, for you, you cannot be a social drinker.
I started drinking in college and soon mentally equated "drinking with fun". I never missed work, no DUI’s and never got abusive when I drank. I’ve been divorced three times, but I left them (though I know it seriously impacted my relationships). Last year I quit drinking for about 4 months, for health & weight reasons and to find a woman who I could build a new life with. I soon met someone on the internet. She had an alcoholic ex-husband, so she will not tolerate me getting drunk. Her definition of being drunk is more strick than mine. She does drink a small amount, but it’s not really that important to her. We talked about a "3 drink rule", but within a few weeks, I went a little too far (tho I didn’t think so). She says I can never be a "social drinker". I resent the fact that "I can’t have a drink". I’m a pretty strong person – I quit smoking by just quitting. Can I reprogram my brain to become a "social drinker". Can hynopsis help achieve this, or even quitting?
You sound like you’re rationalizing throughout your whole post. No, for you, you cannot be a social drinker.
OK my wife wants me to cut off all contact with my sister and I see her point but its pissing me off she is making me chose because my sister has always been there for me through my abuse and everything and my wife has been there for me too I just I don’t know because I have really bad depression and PSTD and for some reason whenever she comes over we drink a lot to me getting wasted and I only drink when she is there so I don’t know what to do I don’t want to chose because I love them both more then anything and they both mean so much and its probably not a good idea for me to be drinking with my depression and the meds but I have no idea what else to do with her she is 19 and I am 25 but my wife is asking me to cut her off and not let her come around anymore my wife says that its making me worse I mean the only time i drink is with my sister and stuff and i know i should not be drinking with my meds and all but i am not sure what else to do this is the only thing that my sister likes to do…… any advise is welcomed and thanks all
In a word YES! Simply tell your sister you are not going to drink. I think your real problem is that you don’t want to stop drinking. My father was an alcoholic and he too had all kinds of excuses. If you are on meds for depression, you are taking your life in your hands by adding the alcohol. So, grow up, be a man, stop drinking, and get ready to be a father. Unless you want to be married to alcohol. It’s your choice. Get yourself a Bible and start reading the Gospel of John. Introduce your sister to Jesus. I can’t imagine why a grown man would want to keep his kid sister drinking. You should try to get her to stop. You are the older brother, act like it.
I have realized for many different reasons, that I should quit. I can’t figure out though if I am a normal drinker, an alcohol abuser, or an alcoholic.
1. Habit: I used to binge drink, then I went to drinking 5-6 glasses of wine/day every day… generally I did this alone and it lasted about 3 months.
2. When I gave it up, I experienced pins and needles in my hands and lower arms and a mild headache. This was nothing untolerable and it happened about 36 hrs after I had had my last drink.
3. Now I don’t have it every day anymore… but when I do start, I ALWAYS binge. I don’t stop… I don’t even think about stopping. It is just a natural reaction to grab more alcohol.
4. Since most of my drinking is done alone, it doesnt hurt or bother my husband much. I stopped drinking around him when he threatened to leave me prior to marriage because I get slap happy when I drink.
5. I have hurt a friend emotionally and getting drunk in front of my family and inlaws etc at parties is embarrassing… sometimes I don’t remember these occasions at all.
Ideas? Suggestions? I really appreciate it. I’m a dental student and I don’t want to f anything up 
These are classic and clear-cut descriptions of an alcoholic. But really, what label you decide to attach to your condition is not nearly as important as what you decide to do about it.
Whether you attend AA or not is up to you, but you must do what it takes to stop drinking completely. AA is great for some, but not all.
The typical scenario is that the drinking episodes become worse and worse until it destroys all your primary relationships, ruins your career etc. and it is only after you hit rock bottom that you get the strength to change your life.
Since you are examining this now, before you have lost your husband and ruin your education. I believe that you are at a dangerous crossroads, but that it is not too late to walk away from this danger.
Best of luck.
I have realized for many different reasons, that I should quit. I can’t figure out though if I am a normal drinker, an alcohol abuser, or an alcoholic.
1. Habit: I used to binge drink, then I went to drinking 5-6 glasses of wine/day every day… generally I did this alone and it lasted about 3 months.
2. When I gave it up, I experienced pins and needles in my hands and lower arms and a mild headache. This was nothing untolerable and it happened about 36 hrs after I had had my last drink.
3. Now I don’t have it every day anymore… but when I do start, I ALWAYS binge. I don’t stop… I don’t even think about stopping. It is just a natural reaction to grab more alcohol.
4. Since most of my drinking is done alone, it doesnt hurt or bother my husband much. I stopped drinking around him when he threatened to leave me prior to marriage because I get slap happy when I drink.
5. I have hurt a friend emotionally and getting drunk in front of my family and inlaws etc at parties is embarrassing… sometimes I don’t remember these occasions at all.
Ideas? Suggestions? I really appreciate it. I’m a dental student and I don’t want to f anything up
These are classic and clear-cut descriptions of an alcoholic. But really, what label you decide to attach to your condition is not nearly as important as what you decide to do about it.
Whether you attend AA or not is up to you, but you must do what it takes to stop drinking completely. AA is great for some, but not all.
The typical scenario is that the drinking episodes become worse and worse until it destroys all your primary relationships, ruins your career etc. and it is only after you hit rock bottom that you get the strength to change your life.
Since you are examining this now, before you have lost your husband and ruin your education. I believe that you are at a dangerous crossroads, but that it is not too late to walk away from this danger.
Best of luck.
My 23 year old daughter thinks I am a Abuser. I do not drink daily but, when I do I can’t seem to stop. She says I am an abuser. I can not have just one drink. She’s not mad at me but says I have a problem just having one drink! and because of that fact she does not want to be around me If i am drinking at all, because she knows I wont stop.
This is similar to the rest of my family members, It always makes me mad as they never trust me to behave and then i get mad and drink because they say you should stop and then i be a drunk asshole..I Guess I am answering my own dumb question! I need to not even get started!
I have the same problem. I can’t seem to have just one drink most of the time. If I buy a six pack I will drink the entire 6 pack. I don’t become an asshole though…most of the time. If it really bothers you then quit drinking (Hard to do)
He is a recovering drug/alcohol abuser. Does not want to take a doctor prescribed med.
Bipolar disorder is miserable and difficult without treatment. There aren’t any safe holistic choices, but you don’t need to despair, because the treatment isn’t generally addictive.
I know it sucks taking prescribed medications — I fight it all the time too — but it really helps and it’s worth it. It may take time to figure out exactly what he’ll need, but with patience and your support, you both can get through this difficult time.