I would rather not have any alcohol at my wedding.?
My family has a lot of alcohol abusers, and I do not want my family acting out of line at my reception. His family drinks a little too much as well. I might just have a few bottles of champagne around for a toast, by my fiances suggestion. Is this normal? Is that bad of me to deny everyone a bar?
i don’t think its bad of you at all – in fact i think its a wise decision and i applaud you for being smart enough to follow through with it. in fact you could instead of having champagne have sparkling juices or non-alcoholic wines.
you want your day to be joyous and filled with happy memories, you don’t want to remember foolish behaviour by someone who can’t handle their liquor~stick to your guns girl~it will also save you a fair bit of money!
edit: i wouldn’t even do a cash bar – if they like their booze they’ll pay for it and you’ll end up with the same problem.
happy wedding sweetie and merry christmas!
August 31st, 2009 at 9:50 pm
Of course not. Esp if you know they’ll go overboard.
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August 31st, 2009 at 10:20 pm
I’m just not going to have it be an issue at mine. Have the best man invite anyone who wants to to a separate room after you leave for drinks. Let them buy their own if they must, it’s not an obligation to provide alcohol!! It’s your day, your rules.
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August 31st, 2009 at 11:06 pm
our venue prohibits a bar so we are going completely non alcoholic for ours, instead we are having fancy softdrinks which are a lot cheaper and the kids can drink them too.
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August 31st, 2009 at 11:11 pm
the last three weddings i went to didn’t have any alcohol. its your wedding do what you want especially if you know they will go overboard.
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August 31st, 2009 at 11:28 pm
In my opinion, most people come to weddings for the free drinks and food.
Muslims don’t have alcohol at their weddings are they have a great time.
Congratulations and enjoy!!
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August 31st, 2009 at 11:42 pm
It is your wedding, it is about you and your marriage. If your family is not good with alcohol then by all means leave it out even the champagne. You do not need it to celebrate, and if your family cares for you they will respect your wishes. Congrats!
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September 1st, 2009 at 12:20 am
I’m not going to have any alcohol at my soon to be wedding except for a champagne fountain because its pretty and no one can go overboard..or it runs dry
..at least I think it does..well I’ll dump it out if I have to lol
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September 1st, 2009 at 12:47 am
im not having a bar at my wedding either.
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September 1st, 2009 at 1:20 am
no, you should not have alcohol at your wedding. It is your right. If they have to leave and go drink it means they have a problem and you do not need to deal with it on your wedding day.
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September 1st, 2009 at 1:37 am
It is totally acceptable to not have a bar if you think drunk relatives will be a problem at your wedding. If it upsets your relatives, too bad, it’s your wedding and you want it to be as drama-free as possible.
Having some bottles of champaign is a good idea, but make sure you find a place that allows you to bring your own alcohol, and check to see if there is a corking fee (they charge you for each bottle you open). I was going to do the same thing, actually.
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September 1st, 2009 at 2:09 am
If you still want alcohol, just have a cash bar with a champagne toast. This way, alcohol abusers might not drink as much because they have to pay for it. If they still drink, they won’t get out of hand until later in the reception… at that point it won’t matter because most of the guest will have gone. If they are truly alcohol abusers (even with a cash bar) they will still get drunk, just not on the reception alcohol – (they will have flasks, hide alcohol in their car, go to nearby bars and come back to the reception, etc,). Either way, you can’t control the actions of an alcoholic… either they are angry because of the alcohol or they are angry because they can’t have the alcohol. At least with the cash bar, it will take longer for them to get completely trashed.
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September 1st, 2009 at 2:32 am
Then don’t. I find it normal out of all the weddings I’ve been to (which is a few) there has only been alcohol at one and that was only champagne. I don’t really understand why people are so insistent on alcohol at a wedding anyway. Aren’t they there to enjoy in the celebration of love between the bride and groom? Celebrations don’t have to have alcohol. Remember before you turned 21 and went to parties? Weren’t they fun? I say go for it! Include as much or as little alcohol as you wish.
Good Luck and Congratulations!
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September 1st, 2009 at 2:43 am
Well..unless you are Mormon, most people avoid bars in order to avoid the expense of the drinks, so some folks consider it cheap not to have a bar or at least beer and wine. But it is your wedding, so if you are limiting the alcohol as a way to control your guests’ behavior, just do not consider them rude when they stop for a drink before the reception, leave for a drink during the reception and/or leave early to have a drink after the reception. People who drink will drink, it is your day but it does not make you Commander in Chief over your guests. They will be flasking or stashing vodka in their cars, or just leave.
Now if this is an afternoon wedding, without a dinner, just some hors deuovers after – no problem, but do not expect them to take the alcohol control sitting down.
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September 1st, 2009 at 3:13 am
I’m not planning on having alcohol at my wedding either; it is expensive and my future hubby and I don’t really like to drink so we see no point in paying for our friends to get drunk and drive home dangerously.
We might get some Arbor Mist for the toast or cheap champagne. Or me might just use gingerale. Haven’t quite decided.
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September 1st, 2009 at 3:40 am
I like the guy’s answer who said get a cash bar. That is a good compromise.
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September 1st, 2009 at 3:47 am
i don’t think its bad of you at all – in fact i think its a wise decision and i applaud you for being smart enough to follow through with it. in fact you could instead of having champagne have sparkling juices or non-alcoholic wines.
you want your day to be joyous and filled with happy memories, you don’t want to remember foolish behaviour by someone who can’t handle their liquor~stick to your guns girl~it will also save you a fair bit of money!
edit: i wouldn’t even do a cash bar – if they like their booze they’ll pay for it and you’ll end up with the same problem.
happy wedding sweetie and merry christmas!
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September 1st, 2009 at 4:14 am
I didn’t have any alcohol at my wedding for that reason as well.
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September 1st, 2009 at 4:39 am
because of the reasons given i doubt you should have one LOL
maybe when its all over in liek the last hour or so you can bring out the drinks if you want.
avalon? ): so cold there.
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September 1st, 2009 at 4:47 am
I don’t think so. We are only having about a 2-hr reception, so we didn’t feel the need to serve it for such a short time. If people want to drink they can do it when they leave at an after-party. I would not worry about it.
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September 1st, 2009 at 4:55 am
no of course not it’s your wedding and one of your memories shouldn’t be of a family getting gettin drunk and acting stupid. i have some on my side and my hubby has some on his side and we didn’t have alcohol at our wedding. but we also said if people would bring liquor in their car and drink in the parking lot and come back in (we knew someone would try it) we’d call the cops on them for tresspassing and public intoxication. you wedding day shouldn’t be filled with bad memories like that.
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September 1st, 2009 at 5:20 am
I don’t think there is anything wrong with that at all. We are not having any alcohol at all at our wedding, partly because neither my fiance or I drink, and partly because of problems with alcohol and some family members. It’s your wedding, your rules.
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September 1st, 2009 at 5:59 am
it is your day and you have things the way you want them, if antone has a problem with it tell them not to come.
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