order of protection denied in Florida!! Help!?
wtf?!! I had documented police records of harrasing, not leaving my house, he is an alcoholic and drug abuser with a prior stalking and domestic violence order against him. we dated a year. i filed and temp was approved. in court he had atty, i did not but I had a voice mail from him threatening to make my life a living hell, swearing and saying he would within the bounds of the law of course not harm me physically, but he would make me beg him to stop, wish I was dead and pick off my friends and family one by one – I played this in court…. his atty basically said the last known violence was more than 6 months ago, that his vm was non threatening and he only was contacting me to see my kids which he bonded with. The judge denied my petition. basically did not even look at my evidence – I felt helpless. I even asked her what is a woman to do to protect herself? Its like the judge protected him.. but she did tell him ‘this relationship is over, so you really do not have any reason to contact her or write about her (oh he also blogs about me and defames me because I will not return his calls or emails).. this has been going on over 7 months!! Why would I be denied… it was clear this guy is imbalanced! Can I do anything about it now? also, after court, he blogged about me again and today he tried calling me – but no message this time and from another number. I do not want to be a statistic, I am a mother of young kids! My ex husband wants to beat thisn guy up – but of course hed be arrested right? I am so frustrated and feel so betrayed by a legal system that should be protecting me. I did everything right and defended myself, proved my case (well, not to the judge apparently)… if I fight back, I am in trouble, right? But he basically just got permission to do whatever he wants with no legal recourse on my part and he KNOWS this. I am terrified he is going to do something now because he left court all cocky and has had no consequence for his ongoing harrasment… any advice?
Basically the judge heard what you had to say and didn’t buy it. You can always try again in the future. Like the other poster said, just start a journal and keep calling the cops when this guy harasses you. Stay away from him. I know, not the answer you want, but its the reality of the situation.
October 27th, 2009 at 7:53 pm
Go buy a gun.
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October 27th, 2009 at 8:18 pm
I would recommend you start a journal. Document all the contact and keep any records you can evidencing what occurred. If he is actually harassing you, you need to get an attorney. The information you collect will make it very easy for an attorney to get the order granted for you. I’m not sure what county you’re in or anything, but one voice mail was probably not substantial to the judge who sees crazy things all day. More evidence may be needed to sway that particular judge.
I really think you would benefit from a free consultation with a local attorney. They will be able to explain more to you. If you meet with a good attorney they will discuss your case and the law with you at no charge.
Good luck.
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October 27th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
Basically the judge heard what you had to say and didn’t buy it. You can always try again in the future. Like the other poster said, just start a journal and keep calling the cops when this guy harasses you. Stay away from him. I know, not the answer you want, but its the reality of the situation.
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