Dear Yahoo Answers, I Am Giving A Speech On Spousal Abuse.. Your Opinions Would Be Much Appreciated..=]?
Alright.. I have many good points on why Spousal Abuse is WRONG, you see but I’m not exactly sure how to create an outline. I was thinking that my introduction should be somewhere along the lines.. of maybe a flashback to a person’s wedding night, and how they thought it would be the begining of a Fairy Tale, but it turns out too be a nightmare.. How could I end that with a good topic statement? Also, I want some statistics, but would that work good on a chart that I could Make??
I want to have the types of Spousal Abuse, and the excuses the abuser uses to keep the Spouse at home.
Do you have any ideas at all????? Your help would be sooooo appreciated. =] Thanks!!!
As far as stats go you could possibly ask a local women’s shelter or even doctors or perhaps online. That me tell you as a victim of both physical, emotional & verbal abuse the abuse generally starts out small & gradually intesifies. My ex husband proclaimed to be a christian, but I knew he had a temper. It started out for the first 12 years of my marriage as nothing but emotional & verbal abuse. They do this by alot of control. After that point he started throwing things at me then went to pushing then into slapping, kicking, punching. My oldest son called the police on him & he was arrested and stopped the physical but the verbal abuse became so bad that it hurt worse then the physical. I do not now why my mind set & so many women in my shoes is to protect the man that is hurting them. However what keeps women with the men are many, 1st they cut you down so bad with words making you feel you can not do better then them, that are men are like this or better yet worse, everything becomese your fault, they tell you that you can not make it alone and no one wants a woman with kids. In my case it was also financial lawyers cost an arm & a leg for a divorce & with 3 kids 2 special needs I did not want to drag my kids to a shelter. I do not think the abuser uses excuses it is just the verbal abuse that makes you feel bad about yourself. It also does not just happen to lower income or less educated people. I have bachelors degree & was a cpa before I chose to stay home with my kids. I eventually got help from a neighbor who knew a lawyer. It was very rough no income for first several months, but 2 years later am very happy & doing well.
I hope this gives a little insight, because my story is like many others. Hope your paper goes well.
October 25th, 2009 at 8:48 pm
Contact your local Social Services, or a battered women’s shelter. They’ll have all the stories and statistics you need.
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October 25th, 2009 at 9:05 pm
if you have ever seen Jennifer Lopez’s movie ENOUGH then the whole flashback thing is in the movie, also how people can be the nicest person and one day they jsut SNAP! it could take months after you get married but in this case (the movie) it took years. Its just a way for the spouse to keep them around, make them feel like they don’t have any way out. if u haven’t seen the movie then see it it will help if u have seen it again just to refresh your memory
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not sure how much help i am but i watch a lot of films i’v seen alot of cases of Spousal Abuse or demestic violence
October 25th, 2009 at 9:27 pm
As far as stats go you could possibly ask a local women’s shelter or even doctors or perhaps online. That me tell you as a victim of both physical, emotional & verbal abuse the abuse generally starts out small & gradually intesifies. My ex husband proclaimed to be a christian, but I knew he had a temper. It started out for the first 12 years of my marriage as nothing but emotional & verbal abuse. They do this by alot of control. After that point he started throwing things at me then went to pushing then into slapping, kicking, punching. My oldest son called the police on him & he was arrested and stopped the physical but the verbal abuse became so bad that it hurt worse then the physical. I do not now why my mind set & so many women in my shoes is to protect the man that is hurting them. However what keeps women with the men are many, 1st they cut you down so bad with words making you feel you can not do better then them, that are men are like this or better yet worse, everything becomese your fault, they tell you that you can not make it alone and no one wants a woman with kids. In my case it was also financial lawyers cost an arm & a leg for a divorce & with 3 kids 2 special needs I did not want to drag my kids to a shelter. I do not think the abuser uses excuses it is just the verbal abuse that makes you feel bad about yourself. It also does not just happen to lower income or less educated people. I have bachelors degree & was a cpa before I chose to stay home with my kids. I eventually got help from a neighbor who knew a lawyer. It was very rough no income for first several months, but 2 years later am very happy & doing well.
I hope this gives a little insight, because my story is like many others. Hope your paper goes well.
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October 25th, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Ideas? not much but I sure have websites!
Spocial abuse is WRONG, dead seriously WRONG, Women should have rights to do things they want no matter WHAT! Even if they are married, if they don’t want sex, then NO! Guys don’t get to do what they feel like…..
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http://www.sars.gov.cn/english/2004/Mar/89262.htm
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/05/07/AR2007050701936.html