Is there any reason why one would sympathize for a child abuser?
January 14, 2010 - 9:37 am
Sure you would say no, but what if that child abuser was abused when he was a child? If you were in that child abusers shoes holding his experiences would you have probably commited the same offenses as him?
being abused in the childhood life could cause 2 possibilities, they will become stronger (constructive) or weaker (destructive).
if i were a child abuse victim, i would choose the constructive overcome to my pain, and therefore i cut the domestic violance chain, instead of to spread this sickness.
i recommend you a good book to read, about a child abuse victim who could rise from the dark past.
Beating the Odds by Caesar Gonzales
http://openlibrary.org/b/OL8512119M/Beating_the_odds
January 14th, 2010 at 3:26 pm
I can feel compassion for any wrongdoer who feels genuine remorse. If he’s just excusing himself by saying it’s because he was abused and therefore he can’t help it so like, oh well, then I have a hard time sympathizing because you’d think that if he applied even a tiny amount of brainpower he would want to do anything he could do to avoid becoming like his abuser. Even if it was really difficult for him to change, a lack of remorse would abolish my compassion.
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January 14th, 2010 at 3:34 pm
Even if a child abuser was abused as a child he/she should receive no sympathy and especially if they were abused. Being abused they should know how hurtful that is and be especially sensitive to not doing to their own children what was done to them. And, no, I would not have committed the same offenses because I think and reason and can control myself even when I’d like to knock the crap of a pestering child.
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January 14th, 2010 at 4:15 pm
There is alot about this now in the news, in gossip, on TV, on the Net, etc. It is like a witch hunt. Sure no one should abuse anyone. Not in the family, not in the home, not in the office, not in the factory, not in government, not in school, not in hospital, not in prison, not in…, and the list goes on. Dare we actually look at the basics of abuse? No instead we blame someone, some thing, and say it is their fault, not mine.
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January 14th, 2010 at 4:36 pm
i can understand when a person flies off the handle and messses up, it happens. also there are people who have mental illnesses who may not control some of the things that they do. now if i was abused when i was a child i would most likely do the opposite of what happened to me, rather than doing the same thing that made me feel so bad. but i understand that there are some people that abuse mentally or physically b/c they think that that is how you show another person love.
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January 14th, 2010 at 5:10 pm
being abused in the childhood life could cause 2 possibilities, they will become stronger (constructive) or weaker (destructive).
if i were a child abuse victim, i would choose the constructive overcome to my pain, and therefore i cut the domestic violance chain, instead of to spread this sickness.
i recommend you a good book to read, about a child abuse victim who could rise from the dark past.
Beating the Odds by Caesar Gonzales
http://openlibrary.org/b/OL8512119M/Beating_the_odds
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January 14th, 2010 at 5:21 pm
Does a murderer have a right to murder because he witnessed a murder? Does one persons actions give you an excuse to commit those same acts?
No.
I do scoff at societies hypocrisies though. We dont blame the lardasss for being a lardasss because of "genetics". Nor do we blame the undisciplined little brat who wont sit down in class, nor his parents. We blame "ADD" instead. God forbid we find a biological and curable cause for…. homosexuality. If genetics give people excuses then I guess racism actually gives minorities an excuse to be the stereotype… why blame a black man for stealing and raping if its in his genes to begin with?
We are a society of hypocrites, are will accept any biological cause if it alleviates guilt and responsibility for things we are ourselves ashamed of, or wish to otherwise escape responsibility. But if we are proud, those attributes were a conscious choice instead or are otherwise "inherent to us"
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January 14th, 2010 at 5:49 pm
Child abusers are wondrous people. I would always sympathize with them.
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January 14th, 2010 at 6:29 pm
There is no reason to sympathize for a child abuser. Even if one was one when they were young.
That argument is based on a false premise that a person does not have the ability to change his attitude and lifestyle in life. He is rather a prisoner of it. And therefore he cannot be held responsible for his actions.
Such a premise excuses the wrong doing that he chooses to repeat and inflict upon his own child or spouse. And that means that the school of life is a bad teacher because the present student never learned from the "classroom" of his childhood experience.
The best way to for redemption is when a child abuser truly breaks out of that cycle and chooses to be different than his mom or dad.
It is never a good idea that any child of any generation be abused for any reason. It is criminal and society has a whole should frown upon it.
If one was abused as a child in ones past. Then one should take responsibility for their own attitude and actions and treat their own children differently and be more supportive in their parenting rather than abusive.
That’s my opinion.
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