I know that alot of time the abused becomes the abuser, and i am afraid that i may follow in those footsteps?
I was sexually molested by my biological father, and i know that sometimes the abuser becomes the abused, and i am just afraid that i may follow those footsteps! I am just scraed to death. i am a 20 year old female, i have been in a serious with my current bf for 4 years, and i am kinda just scared to have kids. I mean i’ve got it coming at me from two sides, my genteics, and statistcs saying that abused sometimes becomes the abuser. I mean, if i hadn’t stopped him, i would have been raped, so i know i did good, and i would never want anyone to go through this……..i guess i am …well……this is just always in the back of my mind. u know? does anyone relate?
I’m sorry what has happened to you truly, but due to the fact that you were molested by your father does not mean you yourself will go ont to become an abuser….i have a close friend who was also abused by their father and what they did they turned this unfortunate incident around and used it to their own benefit they were determined that they would never follow in their father’s foot steps, and became stronger through it…even when we are born we are born as individuals we do not have to take on the traits of our parents because we come from them…..i don’t actually believe you will turn out like your father, because posting this question shows everyone that you are aware of the fact that you don’t want to go down that road, that message is so clear here….you have a good heart and that is so clear to see, and all credit to yourself for still remaining so level headed in all of this…see this as your time now, to work on yourself whether that be through counselling or some kind of talking therapy, but air your feelings to keep your awareness that what happened to you is plain wrong, and it shouldn’t happen to anyone. I wish you get all the help you can to help you to move forward in your life.