AbusersAnon.com – A help centre for domestic abusers

They have a name for it, it’s called "meth mouth".

and like they are atleast 20 years old and they are probably a definate user or abuser??

Ya I know quite a few. Colorado has one of the biggest party schools in the US in Boulder. Most of my friends from High School that went to college got really into serious drugs like coke, acid and Ecstasy. Scary but it’s there life. I’m not friends with them anymore because of it.

are given thier sentences why do the majority of people reading about thier crimes assume these inhuman people will get thier cummuppence in prison. I thought the suffolk strangler would have got his by now and a few others I could mention, but i haven’t heard of anythng bad happening to them. Why do people believe this? as I am having doubts.

People who go to prison for rape or child abuse do get protected, officers follow them to protect them from the other prisoners, but sometimes the officers accidentally leave cell doors open. The prisons are not cosy and warm, each prisoner who is sentenced are locked up 23 hours a day, imagine that, you would go mad being locked up for so long. You can not mix with other prisoners if you have killed, raped or abused women and children in fear of threats, so the life they have is lonely. Imagine the fear of not being safe, every day is another journey of loneliness and fear, by the end of 15 yr sentence, you just want to die. I have known people to go to prison got GBH, they have seen child abusers guided by prison officers, but, were allowed to shout at them as they pass. The prisoners attend victim groups to discuss there crimes, they meet up with trained specialists to work on healing, many child abusers say they would do it again, some ask not to leave prison in fear of abusing a child again. These people are sick and need to be hung.

Thanks for the quick replies. He is an abuser because first he was so sweet and captured all my attention, and he said he was craving for love. When I gave him, a month after he tried to ban to speak with my family and tried to cut off my friend network who know me 10 years. I had one relationship lasting 8 and a half years and we are still good friends. He tried to belittle him and me in front of my friends. First, I thought he was kidding and since I loved him, I ignored them. He was my 2nd boyfriend. He told me stories about his father beating him with leather belt and I held his hand and I told him that those days are over and I had compassion for him. However after a while he started battering me and complained that I never make him a part of my life. No matter what I did, he did not like. He was flunk out of a very famous graduate school for something that happened him and his advisor. When he moved onto another guy, I felt really betrayed. Curious if he will be able to hold this

MOVE ON! Be glad you got out alive. You were in the midst of a slow, painful death–your own! That dude will never be happy if he keeps looking outside of himself rather hearing out the demon within, so he can heal. Good riddance, it wasn’t you it was/is him.

I want to start a petition to bring back the death penalty for monsters abusing children. How do I do? Anyone interested?

How about instituting sterilization of child abusers?

Better think about that. Abortion is the ultimate child abuse.

No; it is called self defense. Israel has been under rocker attack for 8 years, and it had time to realize that unless Hamas is dismantled, the attacks will not stop.

It is tragic that many Palestinians who are not directly involved in terrorism are suffering as a result of the actions of their leaders. While no one wants to see any noncombatants harmed, it is important to acknowledge that all Palestinians in Gaza bear some responsibility for their current predicament. After all, they voted to empower Hamas in an election in which they knew the organization’s platform called for the destruction of Israel and the use of terrorism to achieve its aims.

The Palestinians in Gaza have done nothing during the last three years to stop Hamas from launching rockets into Israel. At any time the people could have said, "Enough! We do not support terror." Instead of allowing rocket crews to fire Qassams from their houses, yards, or neighborhoods, the people could have said, "Stop! I will not allow you to make us a target. I will now allow you to use my family as a shield."

For the last three years, the Palestinians of Gaza have said, in effect, "We don’t mind if Israelis are murdered by Hamas rockets, but the world should support us."

During World War II, the German people were not spared suffering from the Allied invasion because they were noncombatants or because some could claim they were not Nazis and did not support Hitler. All the German people were held to account for their failure to stop their leaders from carrying out their aggression and genocidal policies.

The Palestinians now are also being held to account. What is different, however, is that unlike the Allies in World War II, Israel is doing everything possible to avoid hurting Palestinian noncombatants despite their culpability. Even now the Palestinians have the power to stop the war by demanding that Hamas cease firing rockets. Alas, they refuse to take the one step within their power to ease their suffering.

Abused women won’t leave, or go back to the abuser time and time again. Abused children want to go home to their abusive parents. What is the reason for this?

The abuser has worn down their self-confidence so much, that they believe they are responsible for the abuse. They think it’s their fault, that the abuser really didn’t mean it, and if they just try again, things will be better. The thing is, it rarely gets better…

wtf?!! I had documented police records of harrasing, not leaving my house, he is an alcoholic and drug abuser with a prior stalking and domestic violence order against him. we dated a year. i filed and temp was approved. in court he had atty, i did not but I had a voice mail from him threatening to make my life a living hell, swearing and saying he would within the bounds of the law of course not harm me physically, but he would make me beg him to stop, wish I was dead and pick off my friends and family one by one – I played this in court…. his atty basically said the last known violence was more than 6 months ago, that his vm was non threatening and he only was contacting me to see my kids which he bonded with. The judge denied my petition. basically did not even look at my evidence – I felt helpless. I even asked her what is a woman to do to protect herself? Its like the judge protected him.. but she did tell him ‘this relationship is over, so you really do not have any reason to contact her or write about her (oh he also blogs about me and defames me because I will not return his calls or emails).. this has been going on over 7 months!! Why would I be denied… it was clear this guy is imbalanced! Can I do anything about it now? also, after court, he blogged about me again and today he tried calling me – but no message this time and from another number. I do not want to be a statistic, I am a mother of young kids! My ex husband wants to beat thisn guy up – but of course hed be arrested right? I am so frustrated and feel so betrayed by a legal system that should be protecting me. I did everything right and defended myself, proved my case (well, not to the judge apparently)… if I fight back, I am in trouble, right? But he basically just got permission to do whatever he wants with no legal recourse on my part and he KNOWS this. I am terrified he is going to do something now because he left court all cocky and has had no consequence for his ongoing harrasment… any advice?

Basically the judge heard what you had to say and didn’t buy it. You can always try again in the future. Like the other poster said, just start a journal and keep calling the cops when this guy harasses you. Stay away from him. I know, not the answer you want, but its the reality of the situation.

For example, they talk about men walking out on children – and ignore that many women throw a man out of the children’s lives, and ignore the women who walk out on the children.

They talk about d/v as if only men abuse women – ignoring the sheer volume of statistics which show d/v about 50/50. They also ignore child abuse, aside from the minority of men who abuse children.

They don’t talk about female paedophiles – aside from positively (see the Vagina Monologues in which an adult woman rapes a minor. The chapter is called ‘The Good Rape’).

They talk about financial abuse, with the man painted as the abuser of course, but ignore women who do it to men (e.g. while in USA, I was once given a $5 and even that she complained about)…

They talk about the ‘glass ceiling’ but ignore the lace curtain and maternal gatekeeping.

Etc. etc.

How is this mentality even remotely close to ‘equality’?

Feminists are only interested in pursuing their own propaganda and that means they have to demonstrate to the Federal Government that women are victims and men are only ever abusers, that is worth millions if not billions in government subsidies,
They are indifferent to the truth as the truth would reduce their income and their wages. Why not promulgate their lying doctrine to ensure that their funds will continue to flow.

Most feminist elites live to ensure their $100,000 plus per year income is guaranteed by manufacturing false information as their livelihood depends on it..

… acknowledged all wrongdoing, how does he live with what he has done? For the abuser who recognizes what he has done, it’s more than just about physically hurting someone. It’s guilt over the mental damage too. Owning up to it has been done. Confession has occurred but not helped. This former abuser is in pain over what he did daily. He might eventually kill himself or suffer a brain aneurysm from the stress. If he can’t seek professional help, how can he help himself? No religious responses please.

Forgiveness is giving up the right to punish.

Confessions don’t work if you’re still blaming yourself and/or hold onto the need to be punished. (Don’t forget the meaning of forgiveness).

There’s no such thing as a former abuser. This is something that needs constant work. Work on yourself and put your energies into getting better and being a better person.

Guilt isn’t doing a thing for you but holding you back, allowing you to blame yourself, and keep you down.

Forgiveness and life is looking up! If the abused can forgive you, surely, you can forgive yourself. Stop the punishment.