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This makes it difficult to report and instead of others helping the person to report, they start to wonder if they were abused.
I’m not talking about a one time thing but if the person is continually abused over a long period of time. See what I mean people don’t realize this and are quick to judge, though I guess it is understandable.

I would think that it’s a form of Stockholm Syndrome, where the hostage begins to sympathize with their captor after being held captive for a long enough period of time.

After a certain amount of abuse, the victim will understand his need for satiation of his sexual urges, and have a desire to fulfill their need. I guess it’s sort of a perverse way of falling in love.

Find statistics and facts on religious people. Like how southern baptists have the highest % of alcoholics and child sex abusers?

You forgot lowest IQ’s and astronomical violent crime rates. Obesity is also up there.

A website would be helpful, im trying to do a project for school on how they should lengthen jail time for child abusers, but i need the current information so if you know a website that would really help, or any that have good facts or storys on child abuse

Your question is too broad to receive a truly accurate answer. There are many variables such as exactly what occurred, the county in which it occurred (different judges and prosecutors), and the age of the abuser and child that was abused. Also, whether or not the abuser has prior offenses is a big factor.

I am witing something freelance and just wondering if anyone can give me an addequite difference between drug abuse and drug addiction.

The definition of an addict is: 1. To cause to become physiologically or psychologically dependent on a habit-forming substance
2. To occupy (oneself) with or involve (oneself) in something habitually or compulsively

Definition of drug abuse: he use of illegal drugs or the inappropriate use of legal drugs. The repeated use of drugs to produce pleasure, to alleviate stress, or to alter or avoid reality (or all three).

The use of a drug for a purpose other than that for which it is normally prescribed or recommended.

the habitual misuse of a chemical substance

They are very similar definitions. Almost the same.

Why are people either classified as a drug abuser or a drug addict? Drug abusers don’t usually get the intese care an addict does. Remember, the definition for addic includes psychological addiction… not just physical.

when you are addicted, you are abusing them..so, not much difference

Both substances are harmful when you over do it, but a glass of wine isn’t going to hurt anybody and neither will a puff from a joint. Both are also addictive. Yet one is legal and one isn’t…why?

During my life time, I’ve been around many drug and alcohol abusers. In my experience, those stoned from smoking weed are much more pleasant than those drunk from too much alcohol. From what I can tell, marijuana is less harmful…can you not tax it or something? Is that why it’s illegal?
I really don’t think marijuana effects your brain, though it effecting your lungs are obvious (like alcohol effects your liver)…but, some of the most creative minds in history were known marijuana abusers.

It’s so big of a business that the government can’t get control to get the taxes that it generates.

1. put it in jail till they disinigrate
2. use it as a punching bag at a school fitness room
3. Use it as a pinata at a childs birthday party, and the kids can use spined baseball bats
4. or have to stand tied to a fire hydrant naked where people walking by can spank them with whatever they want

A long time in prison. Even in prison, a lot of the other criminals have children or have sympathy for children. Usually a child abuser or molester gets the royal treatment. They get abused themselves, it’s no picnic. Prison isn’t as easy as sitting around the prison yard, sitting in your cell, work detail, etc. I for one would rather get tied to a fire hydrant and get spanked for a while than spend 10 years in prison as a child abuser or child molester. Imagine the fear of the abuser as he is sentenced in court and is on their way to the big house?

When you study emotional abuse and see that abusers were lying and were wrong, that you really are not dumb, lazy or crazy, does it set you free and make you feel better?
Id say that you cant heal unless you know both. Knowing they were wrong and feeling empathy for them. If you dont know they were wrong you can know it was abuse in the 1st place.

It can do but that’s not the most desirable response. The best thing you can do is feel empathy and compassion for abusive people. That way you stay empowered.

The vast majority of abusers were abused themselves, they have learned their abusive ways unconsciously.

You don’t always feel better when you realise you’re not dumb, lazy or crazy as the realisation doesn’t change the past. Instead of being stuck in the past feel sorry for abusers, rather than having gotten "one up" on them for being proved correct.

This way they don’t have an impact on your happiness and future. You also then won’t feel the same desire for revenge – revenge in the long run never pays off.

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I don’t agree that you need to know they’re wrong to know they’re abusers, many people out there (wrongly) feel they deserve to be abused. For example if a person cheats on a partner and is subsequently with someone who cheats on them they may feel they deserve to be treated that way if they feel guilty enough about their own past behaviour. They may feel they are so unworthy of good treatment that they think it’s RIGHT for them to be abused.

If someone is emotionally, verbally or physically abusive towards you the relationship needs to be ended or modified. Period. If you allow yourself to feel empathy for the abusive person it’s a lot easier to rise above the pain they put you through, that’s nothing to do with staying in contact/a relationship with them.

Because wouldn’t that be the ideal solution? Nobody wants to help people who abuse the system and are capable of working but I’m sure everyone(well most people) wants to help those who DO need it.

Real answers please, not your left/right propaganda.
Yeah, but with kids, its not about the welfare, a kid shouldn’t be punished for their parents mistakes. We should always help children, because they can’t really help themselves.
Money is still needed for kids in foster care.

Ideal yet time consuming.

Sometimes the amount of lies people tell and scheming that takes place to be on these programs amounts to more work than just going out and working another job.

I don’t think many people want people down on their luck to not feed their children. But when it becomes a lifestyle of one generation teaching the other not to work, it’s another thing. People who can’t afford children shouldn’t be going out and having more of them. I’ve encountered my share of people who have had a kid on WIC and then go have another. And they get on Medicare to cover the pregnancy. Baby formula would be almost half as expensive as it is now if there weren’t so much subsidization of it.

My husband lost his job while I was pregnant almost 7 years ago. We drained our savings paying for COBRA. We went without insurance for about a year after my daughter was born, but we didn’t go onto public aid. I figured I was physically capable of working full time, but wanted to stay home with the baby for the first year. Afterwards, I went back to work full time for benefits.

We had inteded on having a second, but we just didn’t have the money. We’ve finally recovered economically, but aren’t sure we want this big of gap between kids. We never expected we’d have another because we wanted to and let someone else pay for her/him.

hell no. my fiance went through hell and back when she was growing up and she is NOT like that. she was mentally and physically abused plus being passed from foster home to foster home and being raped alot. her outer shell is tough and rough and hard-lived but her inner core is the caring, big hearted, and strong-willed. she loves me and will love our 30 kids(she wants to adopt alot maybe not that many. its exagerated but yeah im alittle nervous.) all the same and we will spoil the little brats like no other. a big house and lots of kids and animals. thats her dream. and im going to help give her everything shes ever wanted. XD XD

What are your thoughts on this statistic with respect to the safety of homeschooling versus that of a public or private school?

Also, are the homeschoolers reading this aware that if your parents ever do anything like that to you, it isn’t your fault, you won’t get in trouble and you should call: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) so they can help you?

Wow. You really have no life, no friends, and no concept of reality, don’t you… You must realize how ridiculous these questions you post sound, don’t you? Perhaps you’re a satirist who simply isn’t very good at writing satire. Either way, you’re a sad case, and you should probably consider either finding a hobby, or giving psychiatric therapy a try.

To answer your question, not that it’s really worthy of an answer as anyone with half a brain can see how ridiculous you sound and what a fool you’re making of yourself, if a parent or guardian is abusing their child, the difference made by the child attending a public school is statistically insignificant. There are so many teachers today who are afraid to report abuse when they see the signs because they are afraid of being wrong and losing their job or getting in some other kind of trouble, and the child will likely be just as afraid to come forward. A socia worker is just as likely to hear of the case and take the appropriate actions whether the child attends school or not. Child abuse is horrible in any situation. To use this as an argument against homeschooling or to present it as a reason to abolish home education is as absurd as saying that public schooling should be abolished because of occurrences of severe peer bullying or teacher abuse which is reported in the news much more frequently than domestic abuse cases (at least in my own home state). Furthermore, if this is your reasoning for abolishing homeschooling, you must also logically be against parenting in general since such abuse can take place unnoticed no matter where a child goes to school.

But as I said, you’re only making a fool of yourself by posting such absurdities.