Archive for September, 2009

STORY: if an abused dog attacks the abuser, will the dog be put down?

September 29, 2009 - 8:25 am 5 Comments

Im writing a story of an abused dog, and i was just wondering if they will be put down if it attacks the person that abused it. Its not the dogs fault.
thats so unfair. Why should the dog be killed when they dint do anything?!

it would be up to the person that it bit whether to put the dog down or not.
you could always make the abuser poor so that they don’t have the money to put the dog down.
or make the dog run away before they could take it to be put down.

just a few suggestions :)

A obvious Anti Catholic asked a question why the Catholics Church has so many Pedophiles?

September 29, 2009 - 8:25 am 12 Comments

They then of course chose the answer that supported there belief and even responded claiming it was sad we Catholics did not face up to it.So i did a quick search and found this article and see if you agree??

Making your church safe for children

(Published by Disciples Today, an online publication of the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ, April 2002)

When you attend church this Sunday, take a look around at the people in your congregation. For every five women and eight men in your church, statistics show one woman and one man were sexually abused by the time they were 12. The majority of these people knew the person who abused them.

Since congregations are microcosms of our society, we can’t ignore that sexual abuse and pedophilia can occur within a congregation. With media attention focused on the Catholic Church and allegations of clergy sexual misconduct shrouded in years of secrecy, be aware that the problem is not confined to the Catholic Church. Nor is the crime of pedophilia related to celibacy.

"It’s in every denomination," said Carol Q. Cosby, retired director for Social Action Networks in Disciples Home Missions, "including the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ)."

Late last year, Patsie Sweeden, regional minister, Christian Church in Kansas, learned that a former associate pastor and youth director from the Kansas Region had reportedly abused at least six young boys between 1979 and 1981. The pastor was serving in the Mid-America region at the time the abuse was reported to the Kansas regional office.

"When [the Mid-America] interim regional minister became aware of the situation, he acted on it immediately," said Sweeden. "We had excellent cooperation across regional lines, we all exited a horrible situation feeling like a process had worked well." Sweeden said the pastor’s standing in the denomination had been removed meaning he no longer had access to the relocation system of the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ) and could not function as a pastor in the denomination. The legal system has acted on this situation as well.

While Disciples have no central office to collect statistics on sexual abuse cases related to pastors, according to Cosby, United Church of Christ denominational officials report that during the past decade, credentials are stripped from a minister, on average, once every two weeks. Furthermore, the majority of cases were related to "some form of sexual misconduct," including pedophilia. (http://www.cpsdv.org/Articles/UCC_Response.htm)

And a 1997 article in Christianity Today reports clergy are not the only offenders in a church. A 1996 profile in the Church Law and Tax Report concludes "volunteer workers are the most frequent abusers, constituting half of all sexual misconduct offenses in churches." (http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/7tb/7tb090.html)

So who will protect the children? According to Father John Heagle of Therapy and Renewal Services, "In a community, not all of us are guilty, but all of us are responsible." So what can we do?

"There are some basic things every congregation needs to do to keep children safe," said Kaye Edwards, director of Family and Children’s Ministries in Disciples Home Missions. "We cannot assume that abuse is not going to happen simply because we are a Christian community."

Edwards added that congregations should consider the following:

Evaluate your building;
Raise awareness and educate members of your congregation;
Appoint a task force to develop and implement policies and procedures to protect the children and youth of your church;
Screen all paid staff and volunteers who work with children and youth;
Hold regular trainings for all paid staff and volunteers who work with children and youth.
Protecting our children against sexual abuse is one of the most important things we can do as a church community. Before you leave your church this Sunday, take another look around, this time at the children in your congregation. Then pray for them … and act to make your congregation a safe place for those children.
No i did not miss the point. But you apparrently have.You all act like the Catholic Church is the only ones who covered up such evil behavior and that is the point this article was making.It look’s as if were more than willing to admit it but you Protestants are still in denial..
Looks like no one read the article but then again that does not surprise me as all you anti Catholic’s would not accept any thing that just might prove your thinking is misguided.Hate has it’s own way of destroying those who folow it being as it’s one of Satan’s better weapons at decieving and blinding.

I read the article.

I used to belong in the Disciples of Christ congregation. Some great People. Looks like they are being pro-active about the issue instead of pretending it is not there.

The Catholics came late to the game, but now that Catholics have addressed it, other congregations should also and adopt the changes that the Catholic Church has made.

Background checks for Everyone that works with kids as well as a facility check and rules about being alone with kids.

google Catholic Virtus training.

Be careful, our Protestant Brothers and sisters, it is happening there right now, failure to act pro-actively will hurt you also.

How do you respond to an abuser that has no remorse but still expects me to forgive.?

September 29, 2009 - 8:25 am 8 Comments

I know forgiveness is for myself to be free but the abuse is still continuing which keeps the pain fresh. I have distanced myself from the abuser but he is using any way possible to still cause me torment (although it’s not physical anymore) Sadly, he blames me for the abuse and although I can’t say I have forgiven him at this point I am willing in time. Anyone going through a similar experience?

Every abuser blames his/her victim. They are almost impossible to rehabilitate so don’t let anyone talk you into going back to him. Cut off his email access to you, get a private number or new cell phone and take our a restraining order. It wouldn’t work if you are with him but it will make him aware that you are serious.

Forgiveness is up to you and don’t blame yourself if you can’t for a long time. Time and distance may help but just pray for strength and forgiveness for your own sins. My son’s death was caused by a woman and after 12 years I haven’t forgiven her. Maybe someday. I forgave my father for some pretty horrible stuff, but that took time too.

What help does drug abusers need?

September 29, 2009 - 8:24 am 7 Comments


It depends on who they are. If they are your kids, kick their ass. Anyone else, let them kill themselves.

Under what circumstance would you hire a known ex-felon or recovering substance abuser (alcohol or drugs)?

September 29, 2009 - 8:24 am 5 Comments

in the question?

I’d hire ‘em if I knew them and their motivation. I wouldn’t hire them if I new nothing about them. Some of these guys/gals are some of the hardest workers you’ll find, some are just looking for another con. If they are serious about getting their life straight then it wouldn’t be a problem.

i would like to know how do docs policemen etc control themselves when in a room with child abusers and killer?

September 29, 2009 - 8:24 am 6 Comments

just wondering after baby p.i know no matter how professional i tried to be i would just want to kill those types of people.it must take great restraint not to

I bet it’s with great difficulty. These people are trained professionals, and their ultimate goal is to keep others safe from harm. They are still human, though, and get just as sickened and horrified by these awful cases. I bet that the strain of keeping your cool can have a detrimental affect on a person over time.

How to finally break free from a a phyisical and emotional abuser?

September 29, 2009 - 8:24 am 10 Comments

Been with him for 6 yrs, h ave a 18mon old son. Over the course of years hes changed a lot, from emotional abusing me, always calling me names, putting me down, belittling me, critisizing the way i clean, always making me feel its never good enough to pushing me, throwing things at me, breaking my belongings, kicking me outta the house with no shoes, and lastly, hitting me in the face like 6times and kicking my ribs had to have him arrested and go to emerg for check up , was there 6 hrs. I was dead set it was over, then course he starts with the remorse and so begins the cycle of violence, with the honeymoon phase. I see myself down the road finally done with him but its so hard to get there, i know it seems crazy that i dont finally end it once and for all i cant seem to fully do it, i need advice, maybe i need a brick to fall on my head, lol, i dunno. Scared, uncertain, and desperately wanting a change….

So what happens to your son when this idiot finally kills you??????? Does he become the next victum????? You need to get a back bone for him and just leave! There are lots of places for abused woman to go with their children. Do it NOW!!! I’ll pray for you and your little boy…..

Where is the button to report abusers and cheaters?

September 29, 2009 - 8:24 am 2 Comments

blistered04 unjustly accused me of cheating and said that on the yahoo chatroom someone else also accused me of cheating. Blisteredor used vulgar and inappropriate language. I do not cheat. Nor do I know how to access this chatroom where I am supposedly being discussed.

it should come up on my post some where ,
av a look ?

What to do about a threatening spouse?

September 27, 2009 - 6:49 am 2 Comments

I am separated from my verbal abusive husband of 20 years. He sent me a text which said "Die Bitch". I didn’t think must about it, but I showed it to my family and they freaked out. They want me to show it to a judge and get a restraining order. He was never a physical abuser. What do you think I should do?

Take family serious, & most of all take him serious, just cause he was verbally abusive, doesn’t mean, he can’t turn for the worse, Take Care

500,000 dollar lawsuit filed by my abuser ,suing for wrongful termination of Mental Health Center job?

September 27, 2009 - 6:49 am 4 Comments

My ex of 2 years is suing for half-million dollars , due to what he claims was wrongful termination , after being arrested for domestic violence against me . the union through Brown County Mental Health ,has found an atty. for him in Madison , WI. By the way it is also coming out of Green Bay taxpayers . The term. letter stated that he could be a threat dealing with those who have mental illness ! I am the victim as his suit sits at the Supreme Court level . This is wrong , he said it has nothing to do with his performance at work (because this hapened at home). Arrested probation (that was a joke ), anger mgmt. never finished ! Was able to hire an atty. in Green Bay , WI. Royce Finne who got all of his charges dropped or reduced! If he should win this suit ,what are we telling abusers , ? Do I have any recourse to the said lawsuit if he wins for Domestic Violence ? Who do I contact, please don’t tell me to start calling around . I lost everything !, Where are my rights ????

If I were an attorney I wouldn’t touch this case. With his criminal and violent past he has little chance of winning. The only thing he might have in his favor is that the mental health hospital should have known about his past if they did a criminal background check on him. And if they did know about his past and hired him anyway then I could see some liability on the hospital. But he is going to have a long and difficult fight ahead of him. A fight he may very well lose. Not to mention that he is now known for suing former employers so good luck getting another job.
As far as you are concerned, get a good divorce attorney and leave this guy. He sounds dangerous.