Archive for August, 2009

How do neighbours get rid of nuisance!?

August 31, 2009 - 4:42 pm 4 Comments

How do neighbours get rid of nuisance who is a child abuser[physical, his own children not allowed near him,] moved in with woman,[ now had her own children removed] … Housing association tenant!..HELP US!
We are housing association tenants!

Get in touch with the housing association and most importantly keep a record of ANYTHING that goes on there (e.g. noise, fighting, etc)
The housing association can’t do anything unless they are given a record of the problems

How do you prove mental abuse ?

August 31, 2009 - 4:41 pm 4 Comments

If it’s not seen by anyone but the abusers immediate family.

Tape recorder or digital recorder. Try to mention the date and time on your recording by working it into the conversation. Mental abuse often follows a pattern, so you might rehearse the situation in your head to see how to work it in. These devices are usually small and fit in a pocket.
I would talk it over with someone to explore what possible outcomes could result from proving mental abuse. You don’t say how old you are, so any advice would be limited. But, see an expert anyway. Find out if there is a Protection & Advocacy office near you or child and family services. A social worker or counselor at one of those agencies can help you.

has there ever been a case where a child is abused and the parents defend the abuser?

August 31, 2009 - 4:41 pm 1 Comment

i just don’t get it. i have a friend who’s been abused. she’s been abused by her brother and her dad. they used to beat her, and say nasty things. she went to the school counselor and everything, but the mom defends the abusers. the school takes the mother’s side. the daughter continues to get abused at home. that’s what happened to her. but she’s okay now. i find this terrible. is there any case where a child is abused but the parents neglect the child and defends the abuser?

It is sad, but it does happen all the time.

Did Christian missionaries learned any lesson from the rape stories of David,Solomon,Lot ,Noah in the bible?

August 31, 2009 - 4:41 pm 6 Comments

There are Christian churches in the USA that ordain gay and lesbian priests and draw their legitimacy from such claims. One simply wonders if sodomy and other forms of sexual abuse of children by Christian priests draw their moral justification from such records of Jesus’s life Evidence suggests that many instances of child abuse by clergy were not one-time, isolated incidents. Shielded by a church culture of secrecy, some priests preyed upon numerous victims during multiple parish assignments. Church records have revealed stories of many other repeat abusers, including priests who traded drugs for sex with minors, fathered children, and physically assaulted their victims. In the case of almost every predator priest, church officials had reports of abusive behavior, but allowed the priests to remain in ministry. In many cases, accused priests were sent for brief periods of psychological evaluation and then returned to parishes — where they abused again.38

According to Catholic moral theology39 (for ordained priests), priests can have sex three times a year (for details consult: St. Alphonsus Liguori’s work.40). In a 1983 doctoral thesis by Richard Blackmon, 12% of the 300 Protestant clergy surveyed admitted to sexual intercourse with a parishioner and 38% admitted to other sexualized contact with a parishioner.41 In separate denominational surveys, 48% of United Church of Christ female ministers and 77% of United Methodist female ministers reported having been sexually harassed in church.42 17 percent of laywomen said that their own pastor had sexually harassed them. Ten percent of Protestant pastors had been sexually active with an adult parishioner.

According to the dictates of the NT, the Church does not allow divorce (Matt. 5:32). This ruling has contributed to illicit sexual relationship. Surveys by Baltimore psychologist and marital researcher Shirley Glass showed that 25% of wives and 44% of husbands in the USA at one time or another have had sexual relationship outside of marriage (USA Today, Jan. 9, 2003).43 It does not take a psychologist to understand the effect of unhappy marriage on crimes that is glued by Church edicts! [The leading cause of death of pregnant women in the USA is murder (CNN, Dec. 14, 2004).]

One-third of all U.S. children are born out of wedlock. One-half of all U.S. children will live in a one-parent house (CNN, Dec. 10, 2004). A recent survey in UK showed that the proportion of children born outside marriage has leapt from 12% in 1980 to 42% in 2004, according to the Office for National Statistics. In contrast, 15 other EU countries had an estimated average of 33%, the annual ONS’ Social Trends report said.44 In the USA, 70% of all black children are born out of wedlock. Sixty-five percent of never-married black women have children, double that for white women.45

yes they shold have.

Do abuser bully you because you are weak or abuse you because you are close to him?

August 31, 2009 - 4:41 pm 13 Comments

how do you tell?
what is the difference between bullying a friend and abusing mentally?
what makes the abuser not afraid to show his dark side in front of his victim? he feels safe and comfortable to do so? for the victim is weak? or because he knows that the victim would tolerate as they are close?

Bullies are bullies becase they are insecure. They don’t pick you because you are friends, they pick you for reasons that only they understand. No matter what anyone says, you can never fully understand why someone picks you unless you talk to them about it. You won’t get a real answer on the internet. Everyone is different, though at our core we all share similarities, life changes us all and makes us who we are. That is why some questions shoud only be answered by the subject of the question. The subject is the bully, ask him. Don’t be mean to the bully, remember that there is a reason he is doing it and he may be hurting inside already. A guy started bullying me once in 3rd grade, it is not true that they won’t bully people bigger than them, after he got tired of trying to hit me i talked to him, he stopped being mean to everyone.

Should we send Drug Abusers to Rehab or Prison?

August 31, 2009 - 4:41 pm 8 Comments

$40000 vs $7000 per person per year. It cost a estimated 40 billion a year to keep non violent drug abusers in prison.

it seems like if you really wanted to be conservative this is one of the first places you would cut cost.

The way we fight the war on drugs does not work

You are correct that treatment is cheaper and in some studies, more effective. I think we’ve taken the ‘tough on crime’ act to a ruinous end. It’s long past time to re-think these policies for non-violent offenders.

I would rather not have any alcohol at my wedding.?

August 31, 2009 - 4:40 pm 22 Comments

My family has a lot of alcohol abusers, and I do not want my family acting out of line at my reception. His family drinks a little too much as well. I might just have a few bottles of champagne around for a toast, by my fiances suggestion. Is this normal? Is that bad of me to deny everyone a bar?

i don’t think its bad of you at all – in fact i think its a wise decision and i applaud you for being smart enough to follow through with it. in fact you could instead of having champagne have sparkling juices or non-alcoholic wines.
you want your day to be joyous and filled with happy memories, you don’t want to remember foolish behaviour by someone who can’t handle their liquor~stick to your guns girl~it will also save you a fair bit of money!
edit: i wouldn’t even do a cash bar – if they like their booze they’ll pay for it and you’ll end up with the same problem.

happy wedding sweetie and merry christmas!

Can anybody tell me how child abusers get away with it?

August 31, 2009 - 4:40 pm 3 Comments

I had 7 brothers and sis to my mother who abuse them.I told somebody about it and leave care that I get harresment and slander and follow around and she has got everybody rip around her, You go newspaper and other orgs who take her side and make out you mental.

*** Unfortunately, though mothers account for 55% of fatal child abuse, committed by anyone, they keep getting the children back. In Kansas City, a mother who was seen two weeks ago by the police trying to cross a busy freeway, to get to the store on the other side, and fought the police, still was allowed to keep the child. Last week, she killed the child by sitting on his chest. The father had repeated tried to get custody, but the state provided her with legal representation.
http://www.kctv5.com/news/18694043/detail.html

How does someone become an emotional abuser? my boyfriend is without a doubt an emotional abuser. and why!?!?

August 31, 2009 - 4:40 pm 9 Comments

he is an emotional abuser. i have been reseraching it and he has all tehcharaterisics, and reactions. i found a "cycle of abuse" and its him!!! he isnt like this all the time, but he is!!!!!!! Anyone familar with this topic, or if you are an emotional abuser or were, can you get help? i have walked away from the relationship last week. he makes me feel everything is my fault. please answer someone. thank you.

2 words gal ….. DUMP HIM !!!
nothing more, nothing less, just get rid of him before he takes over your life. He lacks confidence and he uses you as his "punching bag " !
You deserve better. Think of yourself, give yrself priority ! he is not worth the aggreviation, get out and run…. the other way !

How come People that are Verbal abusers, seem alot more threatening than Physical abusers?

August 31, 2009 - 4:40 pm 2 Comments

Putting up with my Uncle and his bad Temper every now and then, I wonder how come it hurts me and my Family more than being Physically assaulted or abused?

Also, how come people with REALLY bad Verbal Tempers, always try and seem tougher than they actually are?

Can anyone explain to me how Verbal abuse is always more Hurting instead of being Physically abused?

most simple answer you will get, a bruise can heal.

People who are tough don’t need to look tough so they don’t try look all scary, but cowards, who use verbal abuse arent tough, so they do anything else they can to hurt.

If you get punched then your bruise will be gone in a week, your memories of somebody calling you a fat whore wont.